Ok. So this guy met me and was super nervous and shy around me (he said so himself) I understood (at the time) he was attracted to me (sexually/physically). Guys usually act like this around me, so I understood what he was feeling. After a month of this behavior he asked me out, we started talking/flirting etc. He'd compliment me mainly on my looks. But as time went by, I made the huge mistake of letting myself get attached and I fell for him :(. I then asked him if he was looking for a relationship and as I already felt: No. He wasn't ready. I told him "Ok, but I'm moving on". Months later ( we were still colleagues, but we lost contact on social media) we started talking a bit after he initiated contact, because he noticed I still had feelings (due to my behavior) and he kept insisting I tell him how I feel about him. I thought maybe he had started liking me too and told him I still liked him. When I asked him why he made me confess, he told me he still wasn't ready.
Now here is what confuses me: I know he is sexually attracted to me as he compliments my physical beauty (my hair, says I'm sexy, I look like a mermaid etc). And there are other girls that like him too, and I told him that, and yet he only wants my confession (he said about the other ones: one is like a sister to him and the other he doesn't bother asking to confess). Plus he doesn't act shy around them.
BUT why are my feelings for him important? Is it BECAUSE I'm sexy (according to him)? Does my being hot boost his ego? Why isn't he asking the other two to confess if he's only looking for an ego boost? Does he use my looks to feel like a man, and to feel as if he accomplished something? Do his friends cheer him on for "catching me/winning me over"?
Now here is what confuses me: I know he is sexually attracted to me as he compliments my physical beauty (my hair, says I'm sexy, I look like a mermaid etc). And there are other girls that like him too, and I told him that, and yet he only wants my confession (he said about the other ones: one is like a sister to him and the other he doesn't bother asking to confess). Plus he doesn't act shy around them.
BUT why are my feelings for him important? Is it BECAUSE I'm sexy (according to him)? Does my being hot boost his ego? Why isn't he asking the other two to confess if he's only looking for an ego boost? Does he use my looks to feel like a man, and to feel as if he accomplished something? Do his friends cheer him on for "catching me/winning me over"?
