Basically, I know he and I aren’t right or good for one another. We actually dated for a couple of weeks in the beginning and it was AWFUL for both of us. We’ve stuck to being friends with benefits because the sex is incredible and we enjoy each other’s company.
For the past 6 or so months, he’s been constantly asking me to be his girlfriend and telling me he wants to be with me. Because I know in my heart we aren’t right for each other (and from experience), my answer has always been “no”.
Today, the topic of one-night-stands came up and he casually told me he’s had quite a few in the past couple of months and showed me texts from girls basically begging to have his d%#@ again. Literally on the same days he screwed them, he told me how much he wanted to be with me and how he hoped that one day I’d change my mind about dating him.
I know I have no right to be bothered but I can’t help but feel icky about it. How can one have such (apparently) strong feelings for another person and want to be with them, and at the same time be having sex others? I can’t even fathom it and I can’t help but feel a little hurt and “played” by him. I know that we aren’t together and that’s basically my fault but it just feels so wrong to me. Especially with the fact that I haven’t slept with anyone else since him (or desired to).
He noticed that I was bothered and bluntly said “Did you expect me to pine over you or something? I like you a whole lot and would love to be with you but if you don’t want to, I have to try to move on”. I understood this completely, he’s a very attractive guy and women basically throw themselves at him; he’s not going to miss out on those opportunities. He then told me “they mean nothing at all to me. I’d drop them like hot potatoes if you said yes. You just need to say the magic word”. I of course still said no and haven’t talked to him.
I know I shouldn’t feel so upset by this but it’s hard not to. Any way I can get over this?
For the past 6 or so months, he’s been constantly asking me to be his girlfriend and telling me he wants to be with me. Because I know in my heart we aren’t right for each other (and from experience), my answer has always been “no”.
Today, the topic of one-night-stands came up and he casually told me he’s had quite a few in the past couple of months and showed me texts from girls basically begging to have his d%#@ again. Literally on the same days he screwed them, he told me how much he wanted to be with me and how he hoped that one day I’d change my mind about dating him.
I know I have no right to be bothered but I can’t help but feel icky about it. How can one have such (apparently) strong feelings for another person and want to be with them, and at the same time be having sex others? I can’t even fathom it and I can’t help but feel a little hurt and “played” by him. I know that we aren’t together and that’s basically my fault but it just feels so wrong to me. Especially with the fact that I haven’t slept with anyone else since him (or desired to).
He noticed that I was bothered and bluntly said “Did you expect me to pine over you or something? I like you a whole lot and would love to be with you but if you don’t want to, I have to try to move on”. I understood this completely, he’s a very attractive guy and women basically throw themselves at him; he’s not going to miss out on those opportunities. He then told me “they mean nothing at all to me. I’d drop them like hot potatoes if you said yes. You just need to say the magic word”. I of course still said no and haven’t talked to him.
I know I shouldn’t feel so upset by this but it’s hard not to. Any way I can get over this?
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