I'm currently a college freshman, and like a guy who I've known since high school. I met him when he had a girlfriend, but we both liked each other. I told him we couldn't be friends anymore because it hurt too much knowing he had a girlfriend. We never were intimate, just good friends. Two years later, I recieved a message from him on Facebook, saying "Hey, I know it's been a long time, but we should catch up, take care beauiful." We started talking and skyping non-stop, and he said we was coming to my town for a business trip in a few days. (We live three and a half hours apart.)
When he came to town, we hit it off. I met his friends, and the sparks between us were incredible. A month later, he met my family, and a week ago I met his. It's been four months now since we started talking. We act and talk like a couple, really like each other, and are always happy to see each other. I know that there aren't any other girls in his life because his sister and I are close and she tells me that he rarely introduces girls to his family and she would tell me if there were another girl. My only problem..he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend yet. I don't know if it's the distance, we only get to see each other once every few weeks, or his bad past relationship. He dated a girl in high school who cheated on him maannyy times, and his sister said that he was destroyed after that relationship and has difficulty trusting girls. I'd never do anything to hurt him though. I brought it up once and he told me that he wants to strengthen and build what we have now and work towards a relationship. But I feel like we already are in one. Everyone (my family, his family, our friends) knows that we like each other and that we are a "thing," but I'm getting a little frustrated. What we have now is great, but I want a label. I beat myself up over it wondering what I have to do to get him to label it. He's already commited to me, so what's stopping him. Tomorrow he is coming to town with his family, and I will see him. I'm hoping he will ask me out since it is around the holidays and a romantic time of year, but if he doesn't should I call it off? I've wanted him to be mine for years, and have complete respect for him and his decisions. I'm willing to wait, but what can I do about the situation? I will do anything for this guy, he's the light of my life. He truly is a keeper:) Any suggestions? I honestly believe the poor guy is just scared and worried about trust after his ex hurt him.
When he came to town, we hit it off. I met his friends, and the sparks between us were incredible. A month later, he met my family, and a week ago I met his. It's been four months now since we started talking. We act and talk like a couple, really like each other, and are always happy to see each other. I know that there aren't any other girls in his life because his sister and I are close and she tells me that he rarely introduces girls to his family and she would tell me if there were another girl. My only problem..he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend yet. I don't know if it's the distance, we only get to see each other once every few weeks, or his bad past relationship. He dated a girl in high school who cheated on him maannyy times, and his sister said that he was destroyed after that relationship and has difficulty trusting girls. I'd never do anything to hurt him though. I brought it up once and he told me that he wants to strengthen and build what we have now and work towards a relationship. But I feel like we already are in one. Everyone (my family, his family, our friends) knows that we like each other and that we are a "thing," but I'm getting a little frustrated. What we have now is great, but I want a label. I beat myself up over it wondering what I have to do to get him to label it. He's already commited to me, so what's stopping him. Tomorrow he is coming to town with his family, and I will see him. I'm hoping he will ask me out since it is around the holidays and a romantic time of year, but if he doesn't should I call it off? I've wanted him to be mine for years, and have complete respect for him and his decisions. I'm willing to wait, but what can I do about the situation? I will do anything for this guy, he's the light of my life. He truly is a keeper:) Any suggestions? I honestly believe the poor guy is just scared and worried about trust after his ex hurt him.
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