Why he lies about his ex and still dates me?

[Anonymous]

He told me he blocked her and didn't speak to her since like 3 months
While i know he did speak to her
Even a month ago
Why he lies to me?
Why not dump me?
He keeps talking to her, maybe even meeting her
And keeps dating me
Why? what for?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Because he can... You know he's not only talking to his ex, but lying which is even worse and yet he's still your boyfriend? People will treat you the way you allow them to..

[Asker]

Why not dump me?
Why he lies?
How can i break up with him?
I can't say i secretely read his phone

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Why not? If you're breaking up with him anyways, why does it matter if you tell him you saw his phone and the calls🤷🏼‍♀️
And some people like the thrill of cheating or talking to multiple people at once...

[Asker]

I was at his home
didn't see any female presence
My own hair from a month ago
And his smell on the pillow and in general
He once said im the only woman in his life

[itsalyssaagain]

Dump him

[Asker]

What reason i should give him

[itsalyssaagain]

Tell him he's not treating you right

[SupremeWarlord]

Because you allow yourself to be treated like shit, dump his ass.

[Asker]

What do you mean?
He doesn't know i know he talks to her tho
I sneaked into his phone and saw her calls to him
And it was like a week a go
Not 3 months as he tells me

[Asker]

I can't dump him telling the truth... that i sqw her calls

[Spongeboblol]

Maybe she rejected him, but he only use you as a side partner not the special one. If she comes back again to him, seduces him, he definitely is tempted to leave you. Dont trust that , we care for you , girl ☺😇

[Asker]

She put him in jail
But then he had sex with her because she shared drugs with him
Then he entered jail second time
Left drugs and still hates her
Thats where i started dating him

[Asker]

The only woman hair or stuff at his homes he has is my stuff and my hair
I slept 3 days ago at his house
And i saw my hair from mon th a go there
At his bed and bathroom
If he had another women i guess id see other womans hair or smell or smth

[Anonymous]

Bc he might still have feelings for his ex and is still keeping her around. He wants his cake and eat it too, and it’s unfair for you and his ex.

[Asker]

But he says she s a bitch , a hooker, sells drugs etc
He talks bad about her all the time
But lies he talks to her
He says he keeps her number tot alk about his daughter, in case smth happens to her
But his daughter is 21 ans lives with her boyfriend

[Opinion Owner]

There’s definitely an attachment going on still between the two of them (maybe they’re just co-parenting). Do you know what kind of things they talk about? If they just talk about the daughter then there’s nothing to be worried about, just bc the daughter is 21 doesn’t mean he’s no longer a dad and his ex is still his baby mama

[Asker]

I dont know
Once i sneaked i to his phone
He sent her a pic of a meal he was eating
And told her
He had no problem with her
It was a text message answer to her audio, i didn't listen
It was in December i dont know the context of the message
He says his daughter suffers and thinks her mom will die of drug overdose
Thats why he worries about daughter
He said she is blocked
I said i dont get why he even has her number (of his ex)
His answer that "she is a mother of my daughter and in case smth happens to be able to call her"
I just sideeyed him...
Then he says:well if i block and delete her she knows where i live to come talk

I was like... what? in this appartment?
He was like:noooo!!! only in case something bad happens to mu daughter
I was like... what will happen to her? everything going to be fine!!

Once he told me he was having a dinner with his daughter
But i sneaked i to his phone
That day didn't see any calls from his daughter
But saw a call from his ex
And that after that call he blocked her

[Sam_The_Savage]

Why not you dumping him?

[Asker]

Because he doesn't know i know he talks to her
I sneaked into his phone
So for him i dont know this info

[Sam_The_Savage]

Are you dumb? When you know he talks & meet to his ex and you still with him and waiting for he dump you. Another level of stupidity.

[Asker]

What the reason i should give him?
I sneak into your phone?
What should i tell him?

[Sam_The_Savage]

Ofc tell him I accidentally check your phone and I found this n that.

[Asker]

No... thats being a rat
Id expose myself
I can't do that

[Sam_The_Savage]

You're awesome...
He doing frauds & playing with your feelings... and here you're scared of exposing him.

From where you get heart like this?

[Asker]

I see no reason for sarcasm
He told me she has a boyfriend
Then he told me she sells drugs
And he thunks she can even be a prostitute
Im confused
I mean, he says all this stuff about her (which totally coyld be truth)
He openly tells me that
Why? what it means

[Sam_The_Savage]

It means he manipulate you and you idiot believe it's love.

I'm done here. Thanks.

[Asker]

How he manipulates me?
Insulting her?
I dont understand