I met my boyfriend on a night out Mar & from April 22 I seen him every sat and he’d stay the night, the it was for a few days and then more often. I was falling for him.
End of July I asked him what this was and he said he was ok with it going as it is but we’ll see in a few months if it turns out to be more. I took this as he potentially wanted to be together and cut ties with everyone. Week before this chat I slept with a friend who I had casual sex with. .
End of August I found out I was pregnant. He was supportive. i went for an early scan and date shown there was a very slim chance it was the other lads. I told him because I didn’t want to lie, I told him. He was broken, understandably. I was sure it was his offered and paid for a prenatal paternity test. He told me how he wanted to make us official and he didn’t want to lose me or the connection we had and he’ll raise the baby as his. I went on one night out without him in nov and he woke me up as he’d been on my Snapchat and seen texts to a work friend he said it was weird and he didn’t like it…we spoke and I deleted the guy. He seen a tiktok vid calling out girls with guy mates and made a strong point that they’re always intentions behind it. So I said does that mean you have intentions with your girl mates. He said I don’t have any. Day after two girls snapped him and he didn’t open them in same room. We went out, I checked on his phone as he did to me. 1 girl was deleted from his feed and the other confessed her love for him (looks like he stopped talking to her after I found I was with baby). In same night out he left me in the club to talk and hug his ex. He seemed distant that’s why I looked and he did it to me. Now his phone pass has been changed so I can’t see if he ever replied or it carried on and now he takes his phone everywhere. Do I now ask who the girls are and why his password has changed - like he outed me over innocent texts? Does this sound like cheating?
He stays at my house most nights for free and I so a lot for him. Do I leave it or do I say something.
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Not sure really, but their is zero trust in this relationship.
Communicate how you feel to him, please.
I tried to yesterday, he just said we need to go out together more. Do I bring up the girls and the weird message he got of her confessing undying love? Do I ride it out and see if it gets better. My guts telling me it’s bad news. It’s in my dreams and everything, constantly on my mind
He’s not a big talker and it’s been addressed he just says he’ll tell me if I’ve pissed him off and stuff like that
You need to bring it up.
If the relationship is healthy, he will listen, and compromise.
Going out more may help, but in a relationship, communication and difficult conversations are very important.
How would I do it?
You went through my phone and what’s fair for you is fair for me, so I did it and now I’m not sure why I wanted to break my own heart. But the distance and the shadiness you show me in my own home isn’t ok. Haha :(
You just tell him how you feel and what has been going on. Explain why you feel the way you do.