Girls, Why would a girl dump her man via text, multiple times?

[quantum_misfit]

"Multiple times" is because I love her so much I didn't give up on getting another chance.

[SueShe]

Asking for explanations about her reasons is the only thing you can do.

My fear is that if you are too persistent she will block you on her social media. I would approach the situation by having a serious face-to-face conversation and try to have the situation straightened out that way.

It is a cowardly way to break up by text and does not say much for that person. She is either afraid of getting involved personally in a conversation. She may have reasons for doing it by text.

If your relation was toxic, then I can also understand why she would not want to meet to straighten out things. You don't mention how your overall relation was or if the one or the other partner was toxic to the other.

[Secret6620]

If it's been happening "multiple times", then she wants one or two things...

1.) To test you, to see if you will fight for her. This ensures that she feels emotionally secure. Especially if she suffers from abandonment issues.

2.) She really *does* want the relationship to be over BUT because you *won't* give up chasing her, she feels obligated/required to stay. This is common behavior for people pleasers.

I think you two should have a serious heart to heart conversation about whether this relationship is worth it.

If she's unhappy, you may need to let her go.

[quantum_misfit]

The thing is she ghosts me until she will finally give me breadcrumbs after a few weeks. I have done the no contact thing and hi estly I'm just too old and mature for playing games. She knows I love her and I feel like your answer number 1 is it. But something will happen that she doesn't like and she'll wait til she's away from me and text me out of the blue. I mean everytime we have had an issue we resolve it before we go about our days. Then she hits me later on via text saying please accept my decision and leave me alone. Thanks... I'm like wtf we just worked that out why? She's always telling me how much she can't wait to spend the rest of our lives together then one day out of the blue boom

[Secret6620]

I understand how frustrating this must be for you.

I don't know if this cycle is something you will want to repeat over and over again.

It's very toxic and overtime that can lead to resentment and other bad feelings. I really hope you can talk to her about her behavior and see if she's willing to compromise.

Sounds like you two *really* care about one another. I hope everything works out. Love is a shame to miss out on just because of poor communication.

Talk to her.

[Secret6620]

Thank you sooooo MUCH for most helpful girl!

[SassyAussieAddy]

Multiples times? Dude have some self-respect and stop going back to her.

[Nikki1989]

Dumping via text is very weak.

[quantum_misfit]

This i know but she will make the excuse of i need to do whats best for my son, which I understand but I am great to her son and she knows that. I'm just really tired of up n down and thinking I've found the one and then she hurts me again. I've grown to be better as a man and person because having her by my side has given me will power to see a good future for us and by me going and doing what it takes to get that for us... I just don't think she is really capable of seeing my side ever. Because she ignores my feelings but then tells me I don't care for hers.