If you found out your partner was secretly gay, would you expose them?

[Anonymous]

I was in a relationship with this guy since last fall. Recently, I have become suspicious he may be cheating on me. I decided to look through his phone and I discovered my intuition was right. But not only was he talking to other women, but MEN as well. He even pays transgenders for sex. And him and his boss has sexual orgies with strippers. Two days ago, I confronted him about this. But rather than talk about it, he became dismissive and left my house. His boss came to my home to pick him up and he hasn’t said anything to me since.

Now that I know he is an undercover gay. I’m deciding whether or not I should expose him. I’m the only person who knows. Yesterday, I got a phone call from our mutual friend and he said my ex is telling people we broke up because I CHEATED on him. He’s lying behind my back to his friends and family. I want to tell everyone the truth. I’m absolutely devastated the man I loved was living a double life..

Would exposing him be too evil? Tell me your thoughts…. Thanks for reading.

[hahahmm]

You were not engaged/married so although what he did was wrong, it's not on the same level as him officially promising to be exclusive & straight with you (pun intended). Still, do you have a right to out him? Yes. Since he lied to you about who he is and used that to get things from you that you would have otherwise not giving him. He's a con artist/thief. I have no sympathy for such people.

I wouldn't bring anybody else (like his boss) into it tho. You will just be complicating your life as you probably don't know what the boss would lose if you out him. Some people will kill you for causing them to lose something. This is true of your ex too but you know him better, I guess. Still, I would be prepared to protect myself & never agree to meet your ex alone *anywhere*, ever.

[Guy13]

If you care about their person and/or relationship you do not treat them asEnemy. This is going to reveal your character and heart. Everyone is watching and judging…go ahead and announce and see what they say about you.

[hahahmm]

An ex that cheated and lied? Is not a friend and there's no relationship.

[Guy13]

@hahahmm Csnt argue with that but I’m one of those that’s going to be mad as hell internally but gracious externally…. she’s not going to harden my heart is all I’m saying. I can pity her…. graciously. She’ll figure out the man she eternally crossed wrongly was a mistake. I’m probably a bigger SOB than you are 🤷🏻‍♂️

[IAteTwoFullHams]

Yeah, that would be too evil. You never, ever out someone before they're ready. It's cruel.

Have some compassion here. He's been struggling with keeping this secret and even probably trying to suppress his own desires.

[Avicenna]

That’s awful. it’s best to just kick him out and dump him. If you were married, all that would come out in the divorce.

[AsaKyo]

Throw him to the curb

[boobliker]

and why?

[In_Trance]

No i wouldn't

[Bklynbadboy12]

No I'd dump them