What would you do if you found out your partner was having an affair with the same sex behind your back?

[Finchie40]

Would you dump them and consider it cheating , or would you be ok with it and not make a big deal about it and ask to join them?

[RavVid]

It would not only be cheating but very selfish to boot not to share. So doubly deserving a dumping.

Clearly there is emotional infidelity in this scenario. On the physical side girl on girl is never going to result in me fathering a child that is not mine... so it is possibly not going to cause the same immediate visceral reaction that cheating with a man would in me. And I could possibly think twofer deal had it's attractions.

In reality though your girl being out of love with you and in love with somebody else (a girl) is going to arouse jealousy in me. In the best case scenario of a permanent threesome I guess I could compromise.

Being practical, there is a strong probability that the other girl is a butch bull dyke, rather than a comely lipstick lesbian, so I might not want to fuck her. Damn.

[AviatorTom]

I'd find that hot, and ask her to invite her friend to the bedroom with us.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

That highly depends on if they had talked to me about starting a new relationship first (I'm poly). If they did then it's fine with me. If they didn't have that conversation with me though then I'd consider it cheating and would end the relationship. I'm not going to have sex with their partner for any reason at that point.

[Aubrey97]

Well, of course it's cheating. I guess if you wanted to have one last hurrah with the two of them just for fun first, that's fine but it's not exactly an alternative choice to ending it so it's not an either/or. Ending it seems like an absolute and decide if you want to have some fun with it on their way out.

[Finchie40]

The way I look at it is , she already ruined the relationship that she chose to be in with me , my trust for her is pretty much gone as well, since she cheated on me , but if the offer was there? Than i my as well have some fun with it , I would probably forgive her eventually, if she was still trying to be in my life and wanting sex with me , but i would never forget , so i would be open to meeting someone else that actually had a heart , and if i did meet someone else that actually had a caring heart , that wouldn’t go behind my back and betray our relationship, I would end it completely with her and her so called girlfriend Basically thanks for a good time but not a long time

[AI Opinion]

Caught in the tangled web of love and betrayal, aren't we? Quite the spicy scenario! If my partner were having a same-sex affair, it's the secrecy and dishonesty that would sting the most. Regardless of gender or orientation, love’s foundation is trust. So yes, I’d consider it cheating. In the grand symphony of love, everyone's tune is unique. For me, the melody of open communication, understanding, and respect is non-negotiable. And hey, while the idea of joining them sounds like a plot twist in a steamy romance novel, in reality, it's all about what you're comfortable with. Relationships are a two-way street, after all. The key? Dialogue, darling. Open, honest heart-to-hearts are where the magic happens. 🌈✨

[Finchie40]

The way I look at it is she already ruined our relationship by cheating on me , so the trust I had for her is gone , so I would take her up on her offer and fuck the shit out of both of them , mainly her girlfriend to prove a point she no longer matters to me like she did before. I already experienced this with a girl I was dating , the only difference was she was upfront about it to me when we first met , she than asked me if her girlfriend can join us and of course I said yes lol But sadly it all turned to shit when her girlfriend decided to come have sex with me without my girlfriend knowing , her girlfriend decided to lie and tell me she was ok with it , so I texted my girlfriend to clarify she was ok with it because she was at work , I texted her if she was aware that so and so was visiting me , my girlfriend texted back Yes , it’s cool , so I said ok let’s fuck , so her and I had great sex and than I found out she was lying to me , she told my girlfriend she was coming over to borrow her dress , not to borrow me lol It turned to shit after that

[Abhishek4444]

I would just file a FIR as it is a cheating case against both of them as she spread her legs for the one who is not her husband and the one who fucked her who is not his wife

[MannMitAntworten]

Place “ex” before girlfriend. Cheating is cheating. How someone is in one area of their life, they tend to be that way in other areas of their life, too.

[exitseven]

I might consider a threesome if her friend was hot.

[TeraGER]

I don't care what gender they are. Its over.

[Alex-Snow]

I would be surprised but probably would have to move on I guess

[WintersDaughter]

Dump them immediately. That IS cheating.

[sage2021]

I think it's sickening! 🤮

[Juxtapose]

Insta dump.

[RedInnocent69]

I think I’d be ok with that actually.

[jahaims]

Dump them obviously