Would you keep your partner's embarrassing secret, or would you tell someone?

[PretzelBeanie]

If your partner had a secret that's totally innocent but they are just embarrassed by (like for example if he listened to "girly" music, or if she practiced her laugh because her real one "sounds weird"). Would you keep it secret for them and not tell anyone? Or would you tell someone, even just your best friend who you trust to keep it, or a random stranger online who couldn't possibly connect it to you irl?

• Maybe because you actually like it and think it's really cute. You want to share, but your partner doesn't want to talk about it.
• Maybe you don't care at all, and want to ask advice about it on how to get them to stop being so embarrassed by it too.
• Maybe you even agree that it really is embarrassing, but you don't want to make your partner feel bad about it. So you tell someone else so you can admit that or laugh without hurting their feelings?

***This question is for women and men. Anyone who has, had, or will have a romantic partner.***

[FreyaRed]

No. If there is no advantage for me to give spicy details, there is no motivation to do that. Especially human psyche works the way, if you reveal secrets about third person, people you reveal this information, automatically feel you aren't worth to share any secrets with you and you aren't trustworthy.
I was once in the situation my ex wanted me back and as he recognized there is no way to achieve that, he started the strategy of scorched earth and revealed very private things form our relationship. Of course if I got emotional I could start to reveal private information about him, with the intention to put him in embarrassing position too. However after short analyze of this situation, I recognized an escalation would makes us both to clowns. At the end he didn't find any affirmation by our common acquaintances, because of the psychological mechanic I mentioned before and I gained some plus points in matter of trust.

[RandomGirl42]

When I first got with my partner I told them never tell me any secret 'cuz I have a really, really hard time keeping them. I don't mean to. I don't tell them out of spite or gossiping or anything just sometimes I can get excited and talkative and add alcohol and forget it. I'll tell you my life story and every one else's I know too. 🤣

[OlderAndWiser]

If you know it is something that your partner wants to keep secret, and you think your reason to reveal it is more important than his reason to keep it private, then revealing it shows a deliberate disrespect for your partner. That is how your partner will feel when they learn that you have betrayed their trust.

[AviatorTom]

My partner has told me some things in confidence, and I have not shared them with anyone. She has also told me some things that she doesn't care if others know, and I have told close friends and relatives.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the sweet dilemma of love and secrets! As your friendly flirty relationship guide, I'd say keeping your partner's secret is a must! Guarding their little quirks is like holding onto a shared joke or a sneaky smile only you both understand. Break that trust and it’s a red flag territory! Trust me, love grows in the safe space of mutual trust. 😉 Let's keep their secret safe and giggle about it together, instead of blabbing to others, right? 💖

[Genie23]

I would never share that even if we broke up.

[virgo2267]

Never disclose something your SO holds so sensitive to them… that is perhaps the fastest way to lose his trust and more importantly his respect towards you…. Think of it as a form of “gentle” betrayal which in the will really make you regret doing so.


by the way: girly music is not for girls only… I’m a dad and have now gone from heavy metal to K-pop cause my children like it and I will turn it up for them if the wish… I have not the slightest care in the world what others think of that too!!

[AvaRay]

I would keep it private cause trust n respect r the foundation of intimacy..

Even if it’s endearing or amusing, sharing something they’re embarrassed by without their consent isn’t loyalty, it’s a breach of their trust..

The right person values discretion over the momentary thrill of sharing..

[MrChinaski]

A partnership is like a relationship with a psychologist or priest... they would only ever disclose their conversations with you if there is a current threat to his life or the life of others, or similarly dire circumstances. If you are thinking about other reasons to betray the relationship then you are not in a partnership.

[Purpleronnie]

Anything my partner told me in confidence that she wanted kept that way I would honor that otherwise it would be a betrayal of her trust.


I thought that everyone understood that

[Lliam]

I wouldn't share it with anyone if it would embarrass my partner or if it would make her look bad. Besides, I don't gossip.

If I caught my partner talking behind my back, I would consider it betrayal.

[ArrowheadSW]

I certainly hope that I would keep it secret! (Funny right now I have music playing and it is that song "I Hear the Secrets That You Keep When You're Talking in Your Sleep..." LOL Coincidence...

[Miristheiss]

I would keep it.

It is called trust and honor. If I betray their trust then I am not even worth being in a relationship with. Any one who said they would tell should be dumped.

[Abbycado]

No, if he didn't want me to share something, I wouldn't.

[Nikki1989]

No, a secret is a secret for a reason.

[Agape93]

I don't divulge a secret from a loved one, regardless.

[beenherebefore]

I would never put my Partner in a situation where he could get embarrassed.

[Anonymous]

I have secrets of his i will carry to the grave

[OneViewpoint]

I keep anyone's embarrassing secret. Spreading that knowledge in no way benefits me.

[Bricealan]

@PretzelBeanie I hope she never tells anyone

[Anonymous]

I would tell sexy things to my sister but not anything embarrassing about my boyfriend, that's private between us.

[slatyb]

I would definitely keep it. Telling secrets is abusive, and should be a deal-breaker.

[QuineJessica]

Yes, I keep my friends' and ex-boyfriends' secrets safe, even if we didn't break up very well.

[Jennz6]

I say, “Don’t Tell Me” but if I hear it I would never reveal it

[Sudheerk]

I won't share it, because its like breaking trust, and once trust is broken, it will be hard to keep trust.

[oswaldcobblepot]

I dont care who knows my secrets (not really embarassing)

[Alex-Snow]

I would not tell anyone. The secret is just between the two of us

[Anonymous]

If I had a girlfriend, I would honor her decision, if she wants me to keep the secret, I would.

[Anonymous]

Hey 😝 i went to addison concert to support her because i love her. Yeah she plays girlie music but still i went because i love her and wanted to see her and support her during her first tour

[RedWine9]

I kept it secret because they trusted me with their dark secret.

[WhitneySnow]

I would keep it

[BadApple69]

If I am told a secret it’ll die with me.

[exitseven]

I will carry it to the grave.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Depends on how juicy it is

[RavVid]

Blabbing is part of the female bonding process.

[yotaman99]

My ex shared but I like led it. She ruined me

[wkhan_87]

I keep it to myself