My wife (37F) got a new job 4.5 months ago, she also made some new friends. I (36M) didn't really like them. They where all hardcore feminists, professional victim, SJW types. They are women who will yell at you for opening the door for them. Or not, opening the door for them. You can't win either way. In the beginning i sort of laughed it off, but during the last 2 months i noticed some disturbing changes in my wife, we have been married for 11 years and have 2 kids, 10F and 8M. I did snoop I did find a thread with one of her new friends, they where discussing how she would approach me asking me for an open relationship. I at that point installed a spying app (best 20 dollars i have ever spent) on her phone which would allow me to see all of her text messages and basically anything she typed, any photo she took, and any video she took. I immediately knew what my instinct where telling me, she was cheating.
I confronted her about it during breakfast. She told me that she is now a feminist and that as an oppressed woman she deserves an open marriage and to sleep with who ever she wants. I asked her point blank who was she sleeping with, and at first she stammered, but later i found out through basically not allowing further conversation on anything else, that it was with multiple men. She told me that she will accuse me of abuse and rape if i try to divorce her and she will take everything from me. Thankfully i have all of this recorded. Apparently she had been taking advice from one of her feminist POS friends, because she divorced her husband and accused him of the same thing, making it impossible for him to see his children.
I later watched as she discussed it with her friends. They where telling her how strong she was demanding what she was entitled to, how she deserved better than me. That it was empty threats from my side, that i wouldn't go through with it (you wanna bet?).
I divorced her, got full custody of the kids. Am i wrong here?
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