What do I do if I miss my ex-stepmom?

[Anonymous]

My stepmom entered my life when I was 4 years old. She had an affair when I was 18 and I never saw her or my stepsister again. It has left a void in my heart.

[hahahmm]

Whatever good feelings you had about here were an illusion. She pretended to give a crap just to get stuff from your dad. She showed her true colors when she left & never bothered to get in touch or didn't want to be in touch. Keep it moving. She probably has 5 other kids you know nothing about OR a new family that she has to pretend for & you'd get in the way of that.

I have several relatives I used to miss/feel a connection to but eventually I got the message they didn't care about me so I moved on. Makes it very easy for me to switch feelings on/off when it comes to people who treat me like trash. Which is a good thing.

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[Asker]

Solid advice

[WendigoHunter]

Just because her and your dad's relationship is done doesn't mean yours has to be. It is not uncommon for step families to stay in the kids life. Currently my best friend has all his ex step kids living with him. The mom was horrible. She didn't take care of them at all. So three kids and their pets live with him. And he takes care of them like they're his. The way he sees it, he was the only dad they ever knew. And no one has their backs so he stepped up. Basically whatever seems normal and natural. If you miss her reach out. And let her know how you feel. She likely misses you too but feels weird about reaching out since she blew everything up. Probably thinks it will add insult to injury or something. Just reach out.

[LepardLashes]

I am so sorry this sucks. If you told them how you feel and how much you miss them and love them reassuring them, that you are genuine. Then i don't think their is anything you can do

[On_cloud_wine]

Maybe she felt guilty that you would judge her too and want no part of her in your life again.. I would try reaching out.. she practically raised you..

[On_cloud_wine]

It wouldn’t hurt to try, and see where things go.. have an open mind about her reaction so you don’t get your hopes up.

[Changiis07]

Try to reach out. I mean we only have one life and that way you can fill that void

[Asker]

It is too late for that, I have tried.

[Changiis07]

Well if you tried on your end and they are giving you the cold shoulder than at least you tried

[Asker]

Yeah it sucks. I will always have trouble trusting older women because of it.

[Changiis07]

Not every person in that age group is the same

[Anonymous]

Try to get in touch with her.