What to do when you miss your ex?

[Anonymous]

I miss him so much and it’s only been a few days since I ended things.

I can’t go back to him because the way it ended was messy.

It’s not like he cheated but there was no respect for me in the relationship whatsoever.

He wanted to control me in every way - what I do, who I see, even my religion...

I tolerated ALL of that because I really wanted to be with him, and all I asked for in return was consistency.

I asked him to text me back every day, tell me where he’s going and who he’s hanging out with.

But he would take all day to text me back and not tell me what he’s doing.

And then I broke down emotionally when he started giving me the silent treatment because I started doing the same thing back to him, so I broke up with him.

I miss him so much and it’s so hard but I don’t think he’s good for me. Even though I’ve had other guys hit on me and ask me out since the break up, it doesn’t feel the same.

What should I do?

Updates

+1 y

Update is that I still miss him so much... I also still have sex dreams about him. I just got back from a little vacation with my friends and that kinda helped keep my mind off things. It's getting better day by day and I am started to see that he just isn't the one for me.

[ohshee]

I miss nothing we've all been through this your heart is broken you feel like it's the end of the world all you want to do is be held beloved be touched we all want to feel that passion that desire we all want to feel somebody's arms wrapped around us but you have to ask yourself did you really get all that stuff and did you feel it when it happened I mean did he melt you there was something missing or otherwise he would not be and X I can tell you right now I don't even know you but I can tell you that you are a very beautiful person with a very beautiful heart your little bit bossy probably sometimes that's just for us a couple different reasons and it's something that you will learn in time not to be but there is somebody out there that will melt you it will do everything that I said right above this and when they hold you when they touch you when they kiss you you're going to feel it to your core you're going to have goose bumps on the inside of your body it's going to make your body tingle with a lot of different areas and you're going to feel something so beautiful and deep and I believe that you would like getting that you have to just be patient you have to accept it just accept it say I am no longer with this guy I don't want to be with this guy because I know there's somebody out there that's going to rock my world and when you understand that it makes things easier don't fall victim to allowing yourself not to get what you want it's so easy to do and when I feel this coming from you this is the time where I wish that I could walk up to you and show you everything that you should be getting that you didn't get that's what drives me crazy about these questions cuz I can feel it coming from you and there's just so much that you would like getting that you deserve don't settle experience what it's like to really truly beloved that's what life's all about is experiencing things taking them to the distance becoming the best at it feeling the best what you experienced something that is so unreal beautiful you will never ever go back it makes you grow this too will make you grow it's how you handle it that will make you grow you know this I already think

[motownplayer2000]

First, yes. Sounds like you were in a very toxic situations with him giving you the silent treatment. However, you mentioned that he wanted to control everything about you. But yet, you mentioned that you wanted to know everything that he was doing daily. That is also a form of control that you presented. And it didn’t work because you wanted to control how he responds to you. And therefore you didn’t respect him either. If he doesn’t respond to you, he doesn’t respond. You aren’t married, so he doesn’t have to tell you everything he does or everywhere he is. Nor is he obligated to tell you where he is or who he is with. If you don’t trust him.. then you shouldn’t be with him. On the flip side, if you are in a healthy relationship he would be willing to volunteer that information when you ask as a sign of respect. So both of you were disrespectful to one another and both wanted control. Very toxic. Which means you were good for him either.

[its_amelia_c]

Keep busy. Spend time with your family. Catch up with your girlfriends. Make sure you are doing things with your time. So that you don’t have a lot of downtime to sit and think or be alone with yourself and therefore think about him.


It’s just about time. All things heal in time.


It’s best not to rush in and start dating again, it’s only been a few days and that’s the worst time.


You need to heal. Find yourself again. You need you time. To be single and free. Time to go out with the girls, to have fun, to dance and be silly.


Then once you have healed you can start to think about dating again.


But you can block his number. Block his socials etc. out of sight out of mind.


Start a hobby. Find something you’ve been wanting to do and start it. It could be a new little business or just something you enjoy doing. It will fill your time.


You will be fine. It’s just fresh and new. It won’t last forever x

[Anonymous]

I have a dildo moulded from my ex's penis. When I miss him I do it.

[glennos89]

There is only 1 thing that can a broken heart...

Time lots of time

My advise to you is seek distraction as much as you can! Being alone will let you think amd thinking often leads to sad emotions in these times. I know from experience because I like being alone but in the time I had a broken heart I was so depressed that I forced myself to visit people even when I wasn't in the mood for it just to keep the negative thoughts away

[HighValue]

I reload. lol
J/K.
I never miss them. I have always been the one to end things and it has been a huge relief because it got rid of a lot of stress for me.

[Asker]

I ended things too but that makes it even harder for me

[HighValue]

To make it easier, whenever thoughts of the pop up in your mind, just try to recall the reasons why you ended it. Think about the things that you didn't like about being with them. That should make it easier.

[boggboss]

Wait u wanted to know where he went and who he was with

[Asker]

Yes every day just tell each other what we’re doing

[boggboss]

Thats sounds more so like u not trusting him and wanting to police him and let me be clear I'm not saying he was perfect or respectable with u but I wouldn't stay with a partner that wanted me to tell her every day who I saw or if I was going out

[Asker]

So he wanted me to tell him every day so I expected the same back. When he wouldn’t tell me I stopped doing it back and that’s why he started giving me the silent treatment

[boggboss]

Then thats fair enough he can't make orders and not follow through

[Asker]

Exactly

[rustycal]

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[exitseven]

think about how much better your life is now that you do not have him in your life anymore. It is really his loss.

[Tstrbrainer]

Be strong and go through it. Distract yourself with happy stuffs

[Tstrbrainer]

How long has this current relationship been on?

[Asker]

It was only one month but I really liked him

[Tstrbrainer]

Can you describe him? His postitives and looks?

[Asker]

Lol why? He’s handsome.

[Tstrbrainer]

Only handsome?
I'm handsome, can you be my girlfriend?

[Asker]

Looool

[Tstrbrainer]

I'm serious. I'd like a girlfriend too

[Asker]

I liked him for other reasons also.

[Tstrbrainer]

I too have other qualities which you might like

[RuthlessAggression]

Nothing. You just have to move on. To go after an ex, is called desperation

[Xtendable]

Take your time, don’t rush into something else just yet, allow yourself to feel what you’re feeling

[RandomGuy1030]

you're female you 100% can't make good decisions. All Im saying is there is a LOVING reason females werent allowed to pick who they date for centuries.

[Anonymous]

Focus on better things and other guys.