Is there an ex, you struggled to get over? If so did you ever get over them, if so how?

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WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

Yep, Arjun lol. I did not really show that I did not get over him to my friends, but I guess they kinda knew deep down. I had a huge crush on him before we started dating and when he asked me out, it was like a dream come true. Granted, we were extremely toxic for each other. But he took me out on long drives at night and gave me this roller coaster kinda rush whenever we were together. It's illegal for minors to drive here, but his dad had some contacts to make sure the cops wouldn't arrest him or anything... He also took me out on thoughtful dates.

He knew how much I loved the brownie place a few minutes away from my home. My parents never took me there because it was supposedly unhealthy, but he made sure my parents wouldn't know and I had the best time ever. We were perfect on paper, but when we did get into a relationship, we could not spend much time together because there was another COVID lockdown, and my parents wouldn't allow me to meet him. His parents were a bunch of crazies... overly demanding and just toxic, in general. I guess I sort of wanted us to end because I was insecure about us and our relationship. After we started dating, I felt like he never took me seriously. He would play video games as soon as he came home and whenever we were on a video call, he would be playing video games with his friends and completely ignore me. His father wanted him to learn a few business tricks, so he would go to his dad's office and stay there after school. He would come back at around 10pm, and play video games. He had a stressful life too. Anyway, it's over and we don't talk anymore. He was hard to get over, and I mostly tried distracting myself from him and did eventually get over him. I do miss our friendships sometimes, but I don't want to see him again... not after what he did to me and how ugly our break up was.

DermalPunch · Accepted Answer

You have to cut them out of your life like cancer. That's the only way. My last relationship was text heavy so we were writing a lot of things back and forth. I revisit the list I made of why I was leaving for good that I sent to them.

When I feel a little weak, I consult the list. I will be doing that for a while.

I've also been focusing on myself and my goals. Acknowledging the further healing I need to do and that I am not exactly the least toxic person in the world.

Also, embracing the lack of distractions in my life that were diverting me from what was important.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

hmm, nope... every time it was a mutual and well thought decision

we even planned in advance that it was going to happen, so we kind of had a "de-phase" or "defuse" period... lol

that made it a bit easier

but also, every time I did take a few months to be just on my own and with myself, because well... after being for years with someone, next to someone and "being one with" someone, it takes a bit of time to adjust back onto you being on your own, so in that sense it was not a struggle either but I certainly put some effort into that as well, lol

ThinkFitness23 · Accepted Answer

I went and started running then got back into boxing and going to the gym…

Nothing wrong with self improvement and if your showing the ex what the silly Billy is missing then so be it…

Been hurt twice (well over 10 years ago), IT WAS MY BAD SO NO COMPLAINTS.

At some point you fall in love with someone else and although there might be something you miss ultimately your newer bond and love will wharf this and then some in most cases.

Those that haven’t moved on simply haven’t moved on to something better.

melanieeeB · Answer

Uhm kinda my last... it's taking me longer, just cause I could truly see a future with him and he was what I wanted as a partner but I'm moving on, I started to flirt with others and so on and I do know why this didn't work out and in my head I wished for more and I'm not hanging on to him, it's just taking longer

You?

Bruce24 · Answer

I had a hard time getting over my ex even though i broke up with her and after 6 months I still would think about her at least every other day. The thing that finally gave me peace for hurting feelings when I broke up with her was when I found out she moved on and found someone else. I hope that guy she is with now is good to her and treats her right and will make her happy than I ever could. Now that I know she has moved on in a weird way I feel better.

exitseven · Answer

I was dumped by somebody I was really in love with. It was a total surprise, I did not see it coming. I really did not think I would ever get over it. I tried dating other people , and most of the time I just compared everyone to her. I guess enough time went by and eventually I moved on.

BlackElph · Answer

I had to stop talking to him. And I became sort of a workaholic to keep my mind busy. Eventually the pain got better

AddylynnNightingale · Answer

No. I have this weird super power where I just don't care about it after the breakup. They were meaningful but I don't get hurt at all. It's strange, sometimes I wish it did.

AsaKyo · Answer

Yeah The first and only one I ever had 😂

moonpie89 · Answer

Haha no. I get over people fast. On to the next one ✌🏾

bigpauly · Answer

Yes. I got over her after like a year of just trying to push through.

Bethany22 · Answer

I got another boyfriend, plus he was better than the ex

bubblegunnn · Answer

Yes ma'am.. took over than 6 months to move on.. well for me i tried to busy w other guy

Smartman5 · Answer

I've never had a girlfriend yet so I haven't had any breakups

Userben · Answer

mesaj gönderIf you send a message I will explain in detail.

Zolly99999 · Answer

Nope.. cheaters are easy to get over

Havthrills · Answer

I didn't struggle to get over them at all.

Jennz6 · Answer

Nope, never had that problem

Fuentes · Answer

Nope good riddance.

Degenerate · Answer

No lol

Debbie14217 · Answer

no way!!

EaterPeter · Answer

Yes,  No,

eagle1951 · Answer

not a one

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