Sent this text to my ex, idky…would you say that message was hurtful?

[Anonymous]

I sent this 2-3 days ago and he hasn’t responded to me. Today I unsent it, because I just felt like this whole message was unnecessary and he doesn’t need to feel that he has the power over me. Clearly, me sending him this shows that he has emotional control over me. He is quite a sensitive person.

[Anonymous]

If he did you as dirty as it sounds from the message, I doubt he will care. In fact it might do more harm to you that he either left you on read or didn’t open it at all, which is why I wouldn’t have sent it. But what’s done is done. What you should do now is start getting closure on your own. You can’t take back what you did with him or those choices but you can make better ones going forward. Forgive him so you can forgive yourself, and move on.

[Asker]

Yeah, I have unsent it.
It did feel right at that moment letting it out.
Now I’m just going to focus on me, like you said what’s done is done.
Not like I’ll ever talk to him again anyways

[Opinion Owner]

Honestly you don’t know that for sure. Right now it seems like you’ll never hear from him again because the drama is still fresh and a lot of bad things were said but somehow these men always circle the block again at some point, usually when things die down and he thinks it’s safer to reach out. Maybe it won’t happen but on the high chance it will, I hope you favorite those screenshots or put them in a place to remember these feelings. Its just too annoyingly easy to be finessed or instigated into a conversation again after the bad feelings have died down.

[Asker]

Definitely, but I personally don’t think he’ll reach out anyway because I could tell he never liked me like that, and it has been almost 3 months since we broke up.
Anyways, I won’t have any expectations. Just gonna meet and speak to more guys until I find the one.

[Opinion Owner]

All you can really do is just hope they do something right for once and not come back lol. It’s a good idea to go explore your options, just be sure you’re looking for the right kind of guy. For me when I’d go through a bad situation, I would take what I didn’t like and apply it to the next thing so I was actively trying not to get the same guy but in a different body.

[Asker]

That’s right, thank you :)

[ConfusedGirl100]

I sent similar messages to my ex and now he has basically told me those messages were abuse and he said he now suffers from ptsd and depression and wants to end his life.

I think some of the things you said were hurtful but at the same time I see feel the hurt you are feeling and I truly hope you find peace within you to be able to move on

[Summeroflove]

You’re right it’s unnecessary and he’s your ex anyways he don’t have to put up with your shit anymore.

Yeah maybe he’s a piece of shit who used you for sex. It’s not gonna do you good to keep contacting him.

He’s probably a piece of shit and don’t care. He doesn’t care he hurt you. I know it sucks and I’m sorry he did that to you

[lightbulb27]

What an emotional F'd up mess.

yes.

Please take a moment to identify whom is responsible for this tragedy, and take corrective action so you don't repeat this mess. Were your parents useless... it looks like it.

You can find this person by going to this thing called a "bathroom" and pointing the finger in the mirror...

[Guy13]

It is a hurtful message. It probably made him laugh because he obviously got under your skin... and is till under your skin.

[Anonymous]

I don't know the whole story, but you say that he hurt you, cheated on you and he used you, and played with your emotions. Which is fucked up. But in turn you cheated on him because he cheated on you. That's not really okay. He probably doesn't care that much anymore.

I understand how you feel now, you wanted to say this to him for a while now probably. It might hurt him, but who cares... he hurt you and this is your way of telling him how you feel. It probably helps you get over all this, makes you feel better and relieved.

If someone cheats on you and it hurt you that much, and you can't forgive, just leave him next time. Find someone who won't cheat on you and who'll treat you well.

[Anonymous]

So you are both cheaters. You deserve each other.

[Nominal]

Good job.