How would you take it if someone sent you a text like this?

[Aerissa_Jade]

I told him Merry Christmas yesterday and this was his response.

Would you think that is just how some people talk all the time, or that it means more?

It means more

It means nothing

I have no idea

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The context here is we've known each other for awhile as friends. He often says I have no idea how much he appreciates me. He has used that term appreciate me a lot, that is very common.

Nothing special this day, a simple Merry Christmas and that response is not normal. I expected a "Merry Christmas" back and that would be that.

[Rosexøxø]

It’s really condensed lol to four messages for context. I feel like for me these 4 are somewhat and casually dry or ‘respectful.’

Definitely nothing about it all seems interested in getting to know or feelings stuff.

I could be wrong, and hate to limit anyone, but it does seem somewhat dry to me.

Nice remembering from you and wishing earlier in the day.

His response was somewhat timely.

These could be good positives, but I’m going to stick with my biased initial and full of effort guess-

dry and he just said love being disrespectful to you in the sense you’re confused about it all and he’s never made other light advances like him trying to do a FaceTime for Christmas.

He just kinda put you in a POSSIBLY awkward situation- if you didn’t like him.

Aside from what it is- his intentions seem to either be saying it and see what he can get and it’s not anything of real effort.

If he’s Indian or British- ask him. They say love and dear quite a bit.

Best to you!

[Rosexøxø]

I voted B And it’s unbiased in the sense that I don't know how you feel for him and I don't know him not you so I’m really just zoning in on the messages.

👀👍

[Aerissa_Jade]

He's from Central America, originally... but been in the US for a long time.

[Rosexøxø]

It’s possible, but rare. Could ask him and keep any eye out for further instances? 🤷‍♀️ 👀

[Rosexøxø]

Update: seriously consider asking him 😂 friendships and relationships thrive on communication

[Aerissa_Jade]

We aren't talking right now, he said he had some things to work through, personal matters but that he'd be back and we'd talk later. I'm not the type to push it when requested for some distance for a bit... possibly holidays too busy maybe? or he has his own business so he could be swamped with running it this time of the year.

Plus since we are only friends, leaving it at that.

I will ask later though, when he does come back... and he will, he always does.

[Rosexøxø]

Yeah. I’m not used to this scenario. It doesn’t seem energetic for me, that’s why I’m a bit bummed about the instance, but I mean, I don’t know both of your styles. Waiting till he comes back seems fair and reasonable.☝️👀

[CrazyGirl2]

It depends, if it was a boyfriend who never told me he loved me, I’d be pretty confused. But if it was just a guy I know, say someone here on GAG, I would just assume that he was just being overly nice. I don’t take positive things said on here to seriously… well not for the most part, there are some guys here that whom I take more seriously if they compliment me / say anything overly nice.

[Summeroflove]

Ask him. His brain is probably wired differently then mine. I say he likes you a lot. But maybe not

[Rosexøxø]

Nothing wrong with asking. I like this 👍

[Summeroflove]

@Rosexøxø thanks

[Summeroflove]

Usually the best way to find out. Because people do stuff for different reasons

[Aerissa_Jade]

We are long time friends, he uses phrases like "You have no idea how much I appreciate you" quite often but saying something like "My Love" after I wish him Merry Christmas is not normal.

[Summeroflove]

I guess it’s not. If you feel uncomfortable I’m sure whatever he meant by it he didn’t mean to. Just tell him how you feel and ask him what it means

[Aerissa_Jade]

I suspect he likes me a lot, but that doesn't translate into wanting more though either. I think I'll wait and see if he does it more, if he does it more often I'll ask him what does this mean, see what he says.

[Summeroflove]

Okay yeah that’s the best way to know is to ask someone what they mean since other people can only guess since they can’t read minds.

[ManHater]

I wonder how come women don't think anything of it.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Kind of thinking the same thing.

[kylee2437]

It means nothing lol the guy I used to talk to used to call me love and we are no longer talking because of his actions

[ShadezMcgee]

I don't take those at face value because it is normally said to be polite or in the moment of how one feels at that moment about the person it is being said to.

I have been called "love" and "baby" by women in the past and it went nowhere. Would never take that at face value from anyone unless in a relationship with them.

[Screenwriter]

Manner of speaking. Unless he's done something else to indicate you are "his love," I wouldn't make bank on it meaning anything other than a casual comment. It's the holidays, people are full of good cheer and liquor. Wait for some actual, solid indications. Not a vague statement.

[Andres77]

Take it in context of everything else. I'm like that with some people that I don't really know but I respect. Nothing further is going to develop. But I treat them with a certain level of affection.

But if there is a deeper relationship... it could mean more.

So, it depends... that's a noncommittal response but... there's not enough information to go on.

[exitseven]

It depends who you texted. I had female friends that I have told that I loved them. They knew it was not in a romantic way. If it was that dirty old man that hangs out at the bus station it would be really weird,

[NathanDavis]

that would depend who sent it to me... there would be a few who would call me that and it would mean "nothing" it would be just an endearing expression

[MCheetah]

That means more, to me. People don't just throw around the L word casually, especially men.

Also, "*You're welcome." With a period.

[Smoothing]

It depends on the context and your relationship with the person. It does not necessarily mean something more. However I understand that some people can easily misinterpret it.

[Kabluie]

I say I love you to some friends all the time, it's just normalized between us. But mistletoe season can mean more if it's the first time you heard it.

[EmmaMary]

To many it's just a figure of speech, I certainly wouldn't go reading to much into this at all.

[melanieeeB]

The heart and the my love were already to much for me... I would have asked and called him out to not do that with me cause we just friends or something lol
I react allergic to guys using hearts towards me if we aren't in a relationship haha

[Aerissa_Jade]

The heart was me, the previous day... rather than think of something to continue a conversation or let it die, I just liked it so he'd get that I liked it and had nothing more to say.

[serious]

I does not mean anything. I think that is his way of showing his admiration and appreciation towards you.

It does not mean he actually loves you in a romantic way. No. Don't take that at face value.

[annabananna]

It just depends on the person. I will call people love that I really like even as just a friend. I will also do it in a way that means more.

[Nurial]

I don't really think so many people use that without meaning anything. Maybe you could try to judge from his behavior if he really feels something or not. You can't tell from just 2 words if a person likes you.

[Jamie05rhs]

Don't let him get too close. He may not understand boundaries, but if so you need to enforce your own.

[KostasKouvalis]

Well, ME personally, I've used that as a term of endearment. However, considering I have a pretty good idea who sent that, I voted Option A :p

[Mansearching]

Think its where you were raised. Probably means nothing.

[nawtee_me]

I know people who call everyone baby or darling and mean nothing by it. But there are some who always have an agenda…

[ImHere22]

It sounds like an older individual is saying it, so maybe he’s trying to come across as serious and chivalrous.

[TotallyAlmost]

No guy says "my love" without romantic feelings behind it. No guy.