Have you ever broken up with someone who loves you?

[Anonymous]

But it’s not working out and there’s this constant worry deep inside that you’re unhappy. But also you’re worried to leave because what if you’re being ungrateful and the grass isn’t greener on the other side. But you’re miserable. But they want to be with you forever. And you tried to break up in the past and he didn’t want to leave. And you’re worried you’re going to be alone forever.

Someone please help.

[TonyMetal___86]

Never been in such situation, you know why? Because i'm faithfull and have nevee dumped anyone till the last moment? Have i dumped anyone? NO M'AM, was i dumped by others? Countless times 😄 i'm in a level where i don't care anymore about how people treats me because i only care about how I TREAT the others, in the end no one is able to see or to know what i'm doing more than god and that's what matters to me!

If i was in relationship where someone loves me and i don't, i'll do my best to cut the road from the beginning so the impact won't be hard and let the person know that i appreciate them and will always be around them and help them as friends, also i'll tey to help them find someone who suits them...

Love can't be on one side, if the couple doesn't have the same feelings and felt that they aren't compatible with each other than they better stop trying and find someone who truly fits their expectations, it's not a game, when you're seeking for a serious relationship which leads to marriagr than you have to know and pick the right person cause once you're married, you must stay forever married, if you can't feel that your other half is the person that you cannot live and that he's oxygen that you breath than better stop from the beginning...

You ain't gonna end up alone and maybe you will...

You see i always try to give hope miss alyssa rapunzel but only god knows what exactly the future holds for us, i'm alone, i miss being in love and i feel empty the majority of the times and in a point of my life where i ain't moving forward anymore since i'm about to become 37, am i happy? Well yes and no, do i prefer to stay like that? ofc NO! Am i hoping to find my other half? Pray for it everynight, will i end up forever alone? Maybe yes and maybe no, the more time i pass being alone, i'm starting to adapt to this miserable status and that's what i'm affraid of, but who knows what the future holds...

[Asker]

You’re a real man. You deserve the best.

[TonyMetal___86]

Thank you sweet lady rapunzel 😌
You too deserves the best...

[Andres77]

This is why making decisions with your head and not your heart are so hard for some. It’s most likely the best decision and will save you the pain and hardship of a broken relationship later on.

i hope you find what you need.

[Asker]

That’s the funny thing. My head says stay with him and marry him. You might not find better. My heart says it’s not in it.

[Andres77]

Well, both should be in agreement. Because eventually one (heart or head) is going to get tired of the situation and and that leads to regret. Good luck

[Asker]

Thank you so much

[Anonymous]

I get what you mean completely, I'm currently in a similar situation. In the end we both agreed that it is best to break up, so we did... but we stayed friends... with benefits. We just couldn't let go completely and this arrangement seemed best for us. Like still kind of being together but without commitment. This helps me not feeling completely alone and looking forward to someone better for me in the future. The trick here is to ditch the idea of ever again being in a relationship with my ex. Knowing that this is only temporary and detach emotionally. This also made me realize that he doesn't really love me because people act differently in different set of circumstances and like this I can see that he is nothing special really and I'm not losing much.

[watercolor_lions]

You are 25. You have plenty of time to find someone. And you will... But you have to let yourself be free to experience that.

I had a guy whom with I had an on/off relationship of about 7 years. We were both afraid to let go, but I was always the one who tried to move on. He tended to stagnate.

You feel like you'll never love someone as much as you loved him... But you will. The world has 8 billion people on it. You're afraid to be alone... But it does get easier. You're worried about their well-being, but they'll be okay. They'll find someone else too, someone who can truly make them happy in a way you couldn't.

Pray, discover yourself, and be patient.

[Asker]

This is the best answer I could ever come across. Thank you.

[Guy13]

Yes because the way the one lived me was counterproductive to a healthy and long-term relational vision.

[Asker]

Was it hard? Did you ever regret it?

[Guy13]

I regretted it regularly as it was not by choice. And it was a reoccurring pattern. It sucked !!

[Anonymous]

i'm going through this now. i'm completely head over heels deeply in love with her but constantly depressed and sad and in pain by how much emotional and mental abuse she puts me through. she has a very bad and extremely toxic habit of constantly wanting to break up with me for the longest time years in fact over any little thing she has an extremely bad and extremely toxic habit of flooring our relationship as hard as she can into a brick wall just to crash and burn it and sabotage it as hard as she can. i've dealt with her extreme lows and when they get low they get really really low to the point it effects my mental health really bad. communicating and talking to her about this does no good which i tried to yesterday only to have her block my messages on instagram. i stay with her because i love her i see good in her which is why i stay. i just don't like the constant disrespect she gives me and how awful she treats me sometimes. i miss and long for the times that she treated me good. when you're up at 3am with panick attacks and anxiety and crying most of the time from all the mental and emotional abuse and when you try to stick up for yourself and defend yourself only to have your messages blocked it's not good or healthy or a healthy way to communicate

[Opinion Owner]

you know how many times i wanted to redo the injuries and damage to my forearm and wrist like i had previously done or how i keep wondering if i should of pulled the tr igg er a few weeks ago when i had the pew pew sh oo t er in my mouth to un alive myself. or how i keep thinking of taking the iso prop yl alco hol at 91% and drink it or swallow the bottle of muscle relaxers to stop my h ea rt so i wouldn't feel the pain anymore

[Opinion Owner]

she looks for any excuse she can for years now just to leave. i got so fed up by it last night that i told her if she wants to go then go and don't let the door hit her on the way out or do let it. at that point i had it. i said that out of anger from all her constant (and i mean constant) threats of breaking up which i got so tired of dealing with. what she puts me through is so unhealthy and so damn toxic and mind you i tried apologizing and all she could do was block my messages on instagram. i just don't know what to think anymore or how to cope

[Opinion Owner]

i love her but she is so self destructive it's been effecting my mental health so bad now

[Opinion Owner]

why do you want to break up with him? what did he do wrong?

[Asker]

Love nobody is worth damaging your mental health. Once you leave her you will realise that the peace is worth it.

[Maybe_1day]

I'm the opposite. I've had many dreams and goals together. Many faults were from my side. I've done many mistakes which was because of my deep love. Some may argue why do so many mistakes when u love that deep? True... u should be more cautious, but after all love does make u blind and insane sometimes. A 3 year old relationship, had many potentials... All gone down in one night. 27th November (3 days ago)... and I'm devastated. I don't know what she's going through but saw her immediately turn back to her old habits, social media's etc etc... but I'm literally still not normal. Still in pain. I know time will heal but, still wonder. Will she ever reach out again? Will she ever come back.. despite our disagreements, overall relationship was perfect. I asked the same question to my dumper. Has she made the right choice? Or will she ever revisit it?

[RealMarek]

I was in a similar situation but did not break up, then got into a horrible marriage. Tried to make it work for years before it became intolerable, and ended up with a costly divorce. If you’re miserable, you’re better off single. Also, you should have no problem attracting a decent man. You just have to keep looking until you find one who will be attentive and kind to you.

[Asker]

Thanks

[Asker]

I don’t want to be married to him deep inside

[RealMarek]

You’re welcome. I knew deep down that I was making a mistake when I made it, but convinced myself that I was already too committed, grass is always greener on the other side, there is a risk of never attracting anyone, etc. etc. I really wish I had been stronger and more clear headed back then. These things are always easier to understand in hindsight.

[Asker]

Ah that sounds exactly like how I feel! I feel like I got trapped into the commitment and like you said — the grass is always greener on the other side/I won’t attract anybody else etc etc. I’m sorry you had to go through the divorce though.

[RealMarek]

Thanks. I’m better off now. Just remember that you have not made the relationship permanent, so you can end it if you want to or think that’s what is best. I know it’s a challenging time to be dating, but I think if you are intentional about it you can find a good match.

[Asker]

Thank you

[DubiousIntentions]

Not everyone wants to say goodbye and if we do we may hope to get back together again. But, sometimes it is for the best and you can't spend all your time trying to make something happen when you know in your heart that it's useless. At that time you will know it's time to say goodbye.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/S8dZV-tuvt4

[NathanDavis]

no

love has never made me so miserable

and if it did, the last thing I would call it would be "love"

[TroyDT2]

Yes. If it is not working for me, I will eventually make her miserable so it is only fair to let her go so she can find someone who is more compatible and who will appreciate her.

[exitseven]

I am not sure,. I broke up with her but even though she said she loved me I really was never sure if she really did.

[SphynxUK]

Answering your question, yes I have. It wasn’t an easy choice but it was a necessary one.

[Ironic_Method]

Every break up thus far. It's doing everyone a disservice if both people aren't happy... and I'm really hard to make happy.

[TacosRAwesome]

I mean in the words of Jerry / Maury... You said you loved me but turns out that was a lie so no I never did.

[Onashir]

You can have the cake and eat it
Or There is no guarantee when it comes to ur feeling or someone else

[RandomGuy1030]

First of all no. I want to say, you sound like a masochist. Yeah?

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah. I have

[jayhams]

Nope

[eagle1951]

yes i have