Have you ever had to break up with someone you loved? How did it go?

[Anonymous]

How did it go? What did you say? I’m trying to break up with my boyfriend that i know i like but not in love with but i like him and his family and friends and don’t want to hurt.

[ohsheeT]

Well let's just pretend that he's the one that wants to break up with you how would you want him to do it you would want him to be straight up honest right

I mean it sounds like you're a good girl and you want to do the right thing so just like you said here you like him but you're just not in love with him and that is a lot

And you need to tell him just like that because

Let's say you do remain together there's going to be a hatred formed pretty soon aren't anger that will go back and forth with each other and you don't want that he doesn't want that so it would be just better off if you remain friends and not lovers because you don't love and if you pretend that you love it's not going to work and then you're going to end up hating each other

I like you I think you're doing the right thing for the right reasons and a lot most people do not do that

They might feel that same thing but they don't communicate it and then they go and cheat and then you got double the mess so I think you're good you're good person and he should respect that

[BTigers96]

Yup. After 3+ years of dating we (ex girlfriend) broke up and married other people. We both started families, and as far as I know we're both happy.

She broke up with me to "take a break" and possibly "see other people". I remember thinking "I can't believe she thinks we might get back together". I moved on quickly and moved out of town for a new job 3 months later. She jumped right into another relationship. After a few years of fun I met my wife. We never saw each other again, but still live in the same state and graduated from the same university.

[avery58]

In all honesty I would NEVER break up with someone I love unless he cheats or I feel my life or health is in danger by being with him. But it only works if the other party is putting in effort as well, I won't be a doormat either.

[Radiate143]

No, people don't leave people they love. You posted a question but admit in your details you don't in fact love him.

Jusst get it over with. Say as few words as possible and let your actions and fading to the talking.

[Finchie40]

If you like him then just be honest with him and tell him the truth that you no longer want to be with him and that you no longer are in love with him , it’s the respectful thing to do instead of blind siding his ass like most people tend to do , because they are selfish assholes. So just have a sit down talk with him and tell him the truth and then part ways

[ManInChains]

My last ex 10 years ago because she cheated on me. She blamed me and ended up with him. Then he went to jail and she wanted to get back together which was the worst mistake of my life because it only lasted a week and things were so different compared to before… She eventually told me that when the guy was released from jail she would get back with him in a heartbeat. I was nothing more than a placeholder. 🤷🏻‍♂️ And that wasn’t the first time I was cheated on by a woman. That was just the worst. I haven’t had a relationship by choice since. Am sick of being cheated on.

[Bricealan]

I was simply awful... She was a woman I met at "Parents without Partners" when I was in my late 20's. After several dates and some of the most wonderful sex I had ever had, I realized she was an alcoholic. She had a 12 year old daughter, that I never met, but her alcoholism became such a problem for me, that it was dragging me down hill too.

I told her she had to get into a program or else I could not see her anymore... She broke off with me soon after.

Several years later, in the middle of the night...2 A. M. I believe it was, I got a call from her in Florida, and she told me she had been in a car wreck, DUI, and almost killed her daughter in the wreck, and she was NOW in an AA program... Such a terrible tragedy, I will never forget or understand.

It took her almost killing her daughter to get her in AA.

Just how sad is that.

[FunkyMonkee]

Yes, all 3 times.
Sally decided to go back to her hubby. Then, they got divorced anyway, about 3 years later and she ended up marrying their best friend and I think THEY got divorced several years later!
Carol broke up with her brand new hubby and a month later we started going together. she had a 3rd nervous breakdown and, by the time she got out of the Ha-Ha Hotel 6 months later, she decided to go back to him.
After spending 10 years of my life with Anu, she started cheating on me with a new guy and a year after we broke up because of it, she left him, too.

[exitseven]

I was in a long distance relationship for 3 years. I really loved her and we were talking about marriage. It was really the distance that ruined it. I did not see how we would ever be together. I called her a late one Saturday night and broke up with her over the phone. The last thing I said to her was that I loved her and she said it back to me.

[D_Bone_Steak]

We fucked other people and moved onto just fucking other people. That's sort of the point... You fuck other people now and that dumb bitch can stop getting mad about me fucking other people.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

There's no easy button. The more you try to be nice about it, and the more you try to spare his feelings, the more you are going to hurt him. Be HONEST for minimal damage.

Now, HE might react badly anyways, but then that's on him.

[mobiusforniner]

I answer yes, however your own description contradicts your question. You say you don’t love him. What value does my experience provide if you don’t love him anyway?

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah it went fine.. I'm broken because he never felt the same way and he is now off living his best life..

[shu2905]

Its better to move away from everything as long as you will be in contact it will be a problem

[Anonymous]

Well fortunately her nature/behavior made it much easier. I told her I couldn't ignore her toxicity anymore and I wish her the best of luck. But I have to extract myself from her life.

She stalked me for two after that.

[Goodloven]

I had a friend that I enjoyed every experience that I had with her. But there were mental things about her and I don't believe a long-term relationship was in the works.

She blocked me after she hung up on me.

[jojouzumaki]

It was painful for me but it is indeed the right thing to do.

[Jersey2]

No. They were all tryouts and they didn’t make the team.

[Becky316]

It hurt me a lot, hurt both of us really. It was a very emotional day

[SunnyRS]

I had to because even though she was the love of my life I was just a rebound for her as she was not over her ex.

[Anonymous]

My ex had a narrow urethra and I wanted kids some day.

[noohair]

You can't always avoid pain no matter how much you want to. Your wellbeing should always come first.

[Stella1990_]

Yes cause my ex kept accusing me of cheating when I wasn’t.

[Jmmmfi4]

THERE'S 0 CHANCE OF YOU NOT HURTING HIM

BUT LETS BE HONEST YOU'RE FEMALE SO IM SURE YOU COULD CARE LESS ABOUT THAT

[LonelyRaider]

I have never experienced a situation like this. But there have been similar situations.

[justabuddy]

No because a relationship without emotional security is just attraction.

[Anonymous]

Nope, even worse, i was never in a relationship... all of my loves were unrequited.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

I think we all did, at some point.

[swettannie]

it's always a difficult moment

[SlightlyMental]

Yes, it went well.

[kaucky1]

Of I meet up with any exes they'll say Let's fuck

[Slim57]

Yeah they cheated so I let them go