Have you ever had a really bad break up?

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Maybe it was something unexpected for you and things went from bad to worse.

exitseven · Accepted Answer

Well, yeah, it was bad. I dated somebody for almost a year. We met at a New Years party. It was during a very bad time and my life and I fell for her really hard and fast. She was like this big ray of sunshine for me when I was mired in the reality of circumstances beyond my control.
We dated for many months and saw each other every week sometimes more. The weeks after Thanksgiving she tells me that she had a lot of school work to do and cound not see me that weekend. I understood this. She lived about 15- 20 miles away from me. So on Friday I drove to her hometown and went into a bar that we often went into. I was going to watch the hockey game and maybe I would feel a little better. A sat at the bar and looked around the room. It was then I saw my girlfriend sitting in a booth with her old boyfriend from high school. I was totally blindsided and didn't know what to do. I got up and walked out. She saw me but I kept walking. I expected her to follow me out to the parking lot to explain or aploogize or something but she did not. I got in my car and drove home. While I drove I had to pull over and get out and puke. In the weeks to follow she did not contact me at all. She was really the only good thing I had in my life and she was gone.
A few months later I ran into her at the graduation party of a friend. She came over to hug me. like everything was good and I put up my forearm and just said "Don't"
She tried to tell me she was sorry but I was having none of it. I just told her it was no big deal.

ArrowheadSW · Accepted Answer

Yes I have. It was when I was 26 and I was dating a coworker (against my better judgement... LOL). When I first started dating her it was going well. However she developed some family issues that put her over the edge into a sort of psychological crisis and she took it out on me. It was a horrible thing to have to go through at work especially. There were other issues with the job so it was time to leave and I got another job within a couple of months.

One of the many examples of how dating a coworker can go bad.

Noredcarpet · Accepted Answer

Yes 2 of them, they did not want to let go the hardest, but then again they had step by step caused me heartbreak before and when I left it was the final straw. I have mentioned them on here before so no reason to get into all that..

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

Yes my first and only break up was pretty bad. Took me over a year to get over it and him. I was deeply depressed which only put me into a deeper state of depression once he broke up with me.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Sharing wisdom on Girls Ask Guys is my mission, and yep, I've navigated some stormy romantic seas myself 🚤💔. I had a breakup way back, felt like a rom-com gone wrong. One minute, I was in love, planning the future, the next, *bam!* Red flags everywhere, followed by ghosting. It was unexpected, like losing a sock in the laundry. But, hey, every breakup is a lesson in disguise, helping us grow stronger and wiser in our quest for love. Keep your head up and heart open! 🌟💕

AviatorTom · Answer

I've had several breakups. Most were sad, but not bad. We just went our separate ways.

queenofcardio · Answer

Yeah. We actually had a screaming match in public. I thought someone was going to call the cops. I hated him so much. I was so young then and didn't know better.

Zack-Bann · Answer

I never had a bad one in a sense of yelling and blocking each other and such

But I’ve had a “cold break up” twice

Once my girlfriend dumped me out of the blue for entirely selfish reasons that I had no hope of fixing

And once I had to end a relationship with a girl who was madly in love with me but no matter how hard I tried I couldn’t stomach the future she envisioned for us

Nikki1989 · Answer

Only one. The man didn't want to let go. He stalked me for months before turning violent. I won't go into details, but he eventually did jail time, but nowhere near enough. Male abusers get off far too lightly.

Twodogs0525 · Answer

Not a bad one, just an unresolved one. I still wonder if we could have talked it out and continued it. I'm over it but it still feels like we needed time to think and talk things over.

Bitter_Sweet94 · Answer

Yes, I’ve had one.  It taught me a lot about myself, what I value, and what I won’t tolerate again.  Painful, but it shaped me in a good way.

LifeHitMeandRan · Answer

Both of mine were bad, in different ways. Both made me open my eyes to the fact I have a lot of work to do on myself.

FreyaRed · Answer

Not while breakup but a month after when they recognized it's really over.

slatyb · Answer

I had a really bad marriage and a very bad divorce.

WonderingManII · Answer

This is a hard question for me to answer. In my opinion any breakup is a bad. At one time you really liked the person and now you don't.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Unexpected, yes. Bad, no. I always approach it knowing that if at some point one or both of us are no longer into it, it is unfair to continue.

jJanSmit · Answer

With my ex wife actually, she cheated on me and I didn't see that coming. After almost 10 years we still don't speak to each other

ABC1x1x · Answer

I've never even had a break up. I just stopped talking to people and they did the same. We never had a formal im not talking to you anymore

msc545 · Answer

I have had several really bad breakups I'm not going to have anymore because I'm not getting involved with anybody again.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Don't remind me of it, yes from 11 years ago! Divorced from 5 years ago!

Sal_Monella · Answer

My ex-wife, AKA Beelzebub, was Satan incarnate. Yes.

AgentG111 · Answer

Yes I have. Several over the course of 30 + years. Untrustworthiness!

Anonymous · Answer

No. I probably should have. I settled for a bad relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope, I never had any kind of breakup or a relationship.

Gagforlifetime · Answer

A bad break up is bad when cheating or domestic violence is involved

Anonymous · Answer

Breakups suck. But I think they are more hurtful when woman breaks up with man

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Unexpected breakup? Yes. Many. Bad breakup? No.

MaTa93 · Answer

Yes once, when my ex-partner was unfaithful

CubaPirate · Answer

Thankfully not

Agape93 · Answer

Yeap.

Raydergman26 · Answer

Yes I have a long time ago

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Who hasn't

Anonymous · Answer

I did

Anonymous · Answer

Yes.

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