My son is 23 years old still he stays with me. Today a 23 year old woman reached out to me via Facebook. She is 6 months pregnant with my sons child. I had no idea he even had a baby on the way. She messaged me videos of my son threatening her to get an abortion.
Also my son was texting her trying to bribe her to abort the baby with money ($200) and i knew it was my son from the phone number the screenshots had on them. She told me she was my sons ex. And was scared. I watched the videos she sent and was in shock at some of the things my son had said to her. He sent videos of her admitting she would be doing it alone and he wanted nothing to do with them and to just get rid of it.
She blocked my account after sending me this
My son told her in the messages he basically was gonna be a dead beat dad she was going to do it alone numerous times.
My son didn’t tell me he had a child on the way nor could i believe how bad he was trying to manipulate this girl too abort my grandchild.
I want to meet up with her for support and to apologize on my sons behalf. My son hasn’t denied that it’s his child but he admitted to emotionally abusing the situation
i want to be in this child’s life but I’m not sure how to go about it i can’t force my son to help?
How do i reach out to her
TL:DR; what should be my next step in getting a relationship with her and my grandchild
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I'm probably unable to answer this particular question, but I can tell you Exactly what is going to happen in the near future for both him and a girl who bears his child.
1. If he is going to force to abort his child (I am 100% against abortion by the way). He will emotionally destroy that girl, for life. It is like me building a 100% custom car from scratch for 9 months and then blowing it up, because somebody forced me to do so through fear.
2. Down the road this poor girl might permanently hurt your son (if you are catching my drift here) Deliberately loosing a healthy child that she probably cares a lot about right now, will mess her up Big time and she will take all her future hate and anger on your son.
3. I basically grew up without a father. You have no idea what young boys and even adult males have to go through when their father isn't around.
4. If you are a religious person, than you know that God WILL punish your son for his complete lack of care for a living innocent being.
He will not be able to run away or ignore this situation. This is a living, breathing human being we are talking about here. There will be bad and painful consequences for him, either now or later in life.
I’d cut the middle man (your son) out and try to connect with her directly. I know she blocked you, but maybe you can try an email, separate account, or even asking him for her information directly. I’m not sure what went wrong along the way for your son, whether it’s daddy issues or something of that nature but in any case, you can’t push him into fatherhood. But you can try being involved, supportive and all that. Not much else to be done.
Why do so many women on GAG lie about their age (and gender)?