My boyfriend has left me and I’m 13 weeks pregnant?

[Anonymous]

He got me pregnant and I found out pretty late at around 9 weeks. I’m 22 turning 23 he is 26. I won’t go into too much defail of the story but he has left me. Apart of me kept this baby because we would be a family. He has turned SO EVIL over the situation. I don’t even want to go into it I had to get away from him. And now I’m here 13 weeks pregnant alone. I don’t know what to do I didn’t imagine myself to be all alone in this. Everyone told me he wouldn’t stick around but he really made it seem like he would stick around. I still love my unborn child but I’m petrified. What if I can’t do this alone? I never imagined to be a single mother, I’m so scared. Everyone is also telling me that I will not be able to do it and thays getting into my hesd so bad. And I think to myself maybe they’re right as they all know me? I’m just very young minded and quite jokey And playful and laid back and what if I’m just too laid back to me a mom? This was my dream to be a young mom it was honestly my dream and now I’m in the position it’s so hard. what if I don’t mature when I’ve had the baby? What if I’m always immature and this party animal I’m just petrified. Although I love my child, I speak to him/her every day.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through this difficult situation. It's understandable to feel scared and uncertain about the future when facing unexpected changes, especially when you are pregnant and going through it alone. However, it's important to remember that you are not alone and there is support available.

First and foremost, prioritize your health and the health of your unborn child. Seek medical care and make sure to take care of yourself physically and emotionally. It's also important to connect with a support system, whether it's family, friends, or a therapist, who can provide emotional support and help you navigate this new chapter in your life.

It's okay to feel scared and unsure about the future, but it's important to remember that you are capable of being a great mom. Don't let others' doubts or negative comments get to you. You are the only one who knows what's best for you and your child, and you can make this work.

There are also resources available for single moms, such as government assistance programs, non-profit organizations, and support groups. Don't hesitate to reach out for help and don't be afraid to ask for what you need.

Lastly, remember that being a parent is a journey and it's okay if you don't have everything figured out right now. You will learn and grow along the way, and it's okay to make mistakes. What's important is that you are doing your best for your child and giving them love and support.

Stay strong and take things one day at a time. You can do this.

Another thing, don’t allow or expect that boy who got your pregnant to be back when you’re doing fine and your baby as well and see them afterwards when he wasn’t there when you were down because it’s easy to have a baby for some men and walk away to leave you abandoned but lord above will watch over you and gonna make it out okay. A man is there for his woman through ups and down and good, bad, or worse and never leaves her astray.

[Opinion Owner]

Listen to this song by Tupac called Keep Ya Head Up: https://youtu.be/24bCvIaYy3I

[ColHathi]

Largely a ChatGPT generated answer, whether useful or not.

[Effably]

Decide what you want.

As for being mature enough? You will be. People do not grow with age but experience. Once in that situation as long as you face it head on you will mature at a shocking pace, as would most of us.

It will obviously be tough no matter what. Always would have been.

[Asker]

Yes this is what I’m petrified about is the mature part. I’ve just got 0 life experience and I wish I did as I am 22 coming 23 maybe this situation will force me to be mature

[Genie23]

God. I'm sorry to hear that. I'd have said try to work things out with him and give it a last try but since you said he turned evil (although I'm not sure what he did. Whether he was abusive or manipulative) it's better to stay away if he's toxic/abusive. With that being said, you wanted to be a mum and now you are going to be one. You need to have faith in yourself. Believe in yourself and quit some of the things that you would do like partying and stuff. You need to focus on the kid and plan things accordingly and also don't hesitate to reach out to your family or close friends when you feel too scared or doubtful you could go through this. I'm sure they'll support you emotionally and also take you to the doctors. But you need to understand fron now on you'll have to do everything keeping your future baby in your mind and be both mother and father to it. It's a big responsibility and it's normal to be doubtful when big events are happening in life be it wedding or raising a kid especially alone. I've met many people like that but now they're happy and doing great. I'm sure you will too. You can do this. Take care of yourself. Good luck.

[Asker]

He turned very manipulative and toxic threatening to harm himself and harm me and would turn up to my house to make sure I’m getting rid of the baby. I’ve told him I’m not now he’s blocked me and isn’t talking to me at all at the moment. Yeah I just don’t have much faith in myself that’ all. He has said negative things so it’s really gotten to my head about what he’s saying and saying I’ll get depression and that I’m not capable I guess it’s very scary

[DizzyDesii]

I was in a similar situation once. I know its tough and scary but you just have to stay calm for the baby. Stay optimistic, control your breathing, eat healthy, get some rest and tell yourself YOU CAN do it (just in case you guys fully don’t work out). I really wish you the best. Tune all the negativity out including all the ones who say you can’t do it. I personally prepared myself for this at an early age of 15 and i’m glad because when i thought i was pregnant at 22/23, he changed his mind about parenthood. I didn't allow him to stress me out and anything negative that was said to me, i retaliated with a positive statement. It drove him and many others crazy. But it kept me calm. Please be careful and just breathe 🙏

[Miristheiss]

Chad and Tyrone's never stick around for the kids. They never stick around. That's why they are the "bad" boys.

You kind of want to be married before you start having kids.

I know the "get married and wait until marriage" doesn't fit the hoe, hook up culture... but this tried and true standard that has worked for society for thousands of years... actually works the best.

[Adaeva]

You made the decision to get pregnant so live with it, get an abortion, or leave the baby at the hospital and walk away. You did and still have choices.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Hell yeah girl. Preach!

[WanderingLoveWizard]

This entire problem could be solved with a little bit of liquor (for courage) and a coat hanger

[FunkyMonkee]

Find a new boyfriend that loves you for YOU and doesn't mind being an instant daddy.

[jimmy2]

God bless you dear. Keep the baby if I was younger I would join you so there men out there who will bless you and your child

[Anonymous]

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