Friends with benefits and sex?

[Anonymous]

My friends with benefits used to wear white because his ex girlfriend used to wear white cardigans, shoes snd he went from wearing black t shirts to white after she started to do so. They always mirrored each other in clothes as she wore black a lot and he used to wear black too.

After their break up, he stopped wearing white completely until yesterday, he wore white again. She still wears white shoes but after nearly a month he wore white again.

The ex girlfriend still loves him and she kept their communication line open and I saw them together (I'm his friends with benefits by the way) talking today because she had patched up with him 2 weeks ago despite him being upset over her breaking things off (he was being immature in expressing his feelings and disrespectful and she ended it cos of it but later wanted to still be in each others lives).

Is he now over her hence he no longer cares or he's realised his feelings?

[Guy13]

That's his colors or signals... I know some gay guys that do that kind of thing although it is subtle. He's not yours anyway as you guys are in a shared or check in or out anytime arrangement...

[Asker]

It's not his colour. He used to only wear black or blue until she started wearing white

[Guy13]

I guess he's back on with the EX?

[FilmGuy93]

He's probably just processing through the emotions of a breakup. That's complicated and most people experience a wide range of changing feelings. The color might mean something. It might not. It's kind of tough to say as anything more than a guess.

[Asker]

Does the colour mean he's finally over her or he's coming to terms with his feelings? He denied being in love

[FilmGuy93]

See my above answer

[Asker]

I saw but he was the one refusing to admit his feelings. Then why all of this?

[FilmGuy93]

He's doing it BECAUSE he doesn't want to confront his feelings. In my observation, the kinds of people who pursue friends with benefits arrangements tend not to be very in touch with their feelings. Don't expect much of this guy's behavior to make sense. He's using the time with you as a way to process that whole situation.

[Asker]

Do you think he's starting to miss her?,? Hence wearing white again? Because she remained nice and caring to him
This is my full post

[Asker]

My friends with benefits and the girl he wanted for a year fell out last month because he disrespected her and denied having any feelings for her even when she told him that she has feelings for him.

They never had sex but my friends with benefits seemed like he kind of had developed feelings for her. She used to wear white cardigans and shoes and ever since she started wearing white, he became buying white shirts and started wearing them a lot.

Eventually, she texted him ending their association and he was hurt and upset by it. He deleted her number but kept saying hello to her in person to which she also responded. He stopped wearing white completely after this incident.

However, it was clear he actually didn't want to say hello but was only doing it for some weird reason. However, she texted him again saying she is finished with uni so might not come and would like to see him but later on when she asked to chat, he agreed but said he had archived her chats with him so didn't receive her text. He didn't say whether he deleted her or not.

Eventually, she told him how she liked talking to him and was only trying to find a solution for their issues. He initially said that once you bake a cake it can't go back to how it was and how he has no problems with her but wants to move forward as he feels stagnated. She still maintained that she does not want to stay on bad terms or act like strangers and he agreed.

However, almost 2 weeks, he was not really himself and even yesterday, he was miserable.

However, last night he made a fake Instagram account (from my laptop) to check hers which he quickly deleted by morning. And all of a sudden, from today onwards, he began wearing white again.

[Asker]

When I reached uni in the afternoon, he kept going outside campus to smoke (4 times) and on the 4th ocassion declined taking me with him even though we were looking for his lost book together. I saw them together and he was asking her about football, telling her how he doesn't like his home team because they have obnoxious and bad mentality who think they know everything. He told her about his holiday plans and when she was coming along with him, he didn't stop her. 2 weeks ago, he did tell her he's going inside and she didn't accompany him but this time he didn't. He also didn't tell her that he's still seeing me.

She also told him that she got her library card extended and he said that's good and how she can use the library etc.

[FilmGuy93]

I don’t know what you want from me right now… I told you what was up; he’s figuring the situation out. Just him time. Stop trying to make sense of the situation, just let him do his thing

[Asker]

I told you the full story. I just want to know if he likes her still or has moved on?

[FilmGuy93]

As I have said now multiple times; he is still processing through the situation.

[Anonymous]

It's just a friends with benefits. Why all the overthinking?

[Asker]

Please answer my question

[Guy13]

Your friends with benefits. perception seems to be that his friends with benefits. with his Ex is a better situation for him. Ask him about it?

[Asker]

My friends with benefits and the girl he wanted for a year fell out last month because he disrespected her and denied having any feelings for her even when she told him that she has feelings for him.

They never had sex but my friends with benefits seemed like he kind of had developed feelings for her. She used to wear white cardigans and shoes and ever since she started wearing white, he became buying white shirts and started wearing them a lot.

Eventually, she texted him ending their association and he was hurt and upset by it. He deleted her number but kept saying hello to her in person to which she also responded. He stopped wearing white completely after this incident.

However, it was clear he actually didn't want to say hello but was only doing it for some weird reason. However, she texted him again saying she is finished with uni so might not come and would like to see him but later on when she asked to chat, he agreed but said he had archived her chats with him so didn't receive her text. He didn't say whether he deleted her or not.

[Asker]

Eventually, she texted him ending their association and he was hurt and upset by it. He deleted her number but kept saying hello to her in person to which she also responded. He stopped wearing white completely after this incident.

However, it was clear he actually didn't want to say hello but was only doing it for some weird reason. However, she texted him again saying she is finished with uni so might not come and would like to see him but later on when she asked to chat, he agreed but said he had archived her chats with him so didn't receive her text. He didn't say whether he deleted her or not.

she told him how she liked talking to him and was only trying to find a solution for their issues. He initially said that once you bake a cake it can't go back to how it was and how he has no problems with her but wants to move forward as he feels stagnated. She still maintained that she does not want to stay on bad terms or act like strangers and he agreed.

And all of a sudden, from today onwards, he began wearing white again.

When I reached uni in the afternoon, he kept going outside campus to smoke (4 times) and on the 4th ocassion declined taking me with him even though we were looking for his lost book together. I saw them together and he was asking her about football, telling her how he doesn't like his home team because they have obnoxious and bad mentality who think they know everything. He told her about his holiday plans and when she was coming along with him, he didn't stop her. 2 weeks ago, he did tell her he's going inside and she didn't accompany him but this time he didn't. He also didn't tell her that he's still seeing me.

She also told him that she got her library card extended and he said that's good and how she can use the library etc.

After 15 mins of their encounter, he left.

Does this mean he has finally move on? Considering he started wearing white and it seems like she no longer bothers him anymore like she used to?

[Kabluie]

I started wearing pure and eggshell white more often, but it's really one of those i bought it, i can wear it anytime regardless of partner so you're looking into it too much. The break-up doesn't mean pull the plug entirely, it was a de-escalation to friendship.

[dazzinu69]

I matched my boxer brief colors to a exgfs shirt colors on dates lol

[Asker]

But he denied liking her andhad issues with her so why wear white again?

[dazzinu69]

If you don't really trust him anymore, it might be a problem

[boggboss]

Hear qe go again

[Asker]

No reply but here we go again

[boggboss]

No reply because again posting the same old shit story because your obsessed with him and too scared to ask him