What's the point of begging for a 2nd chance?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend recently broke up because he overheard a conversation I had with two friends about dating him for a dare to collect $100 and then ditch him. To my bad luck, he recorded it all on his cell.

However, I had actually caught feeling for him in the past 3 months and the plan backfired. I canceled the bet. Obviously he had a hard time believing me. However, this is the part I don't understand. This was his last message:

''For someone that claims to love me, you didn't even try to stop me from leaving. If it was me I would've try winning you back but you didn't even try. It doesn't sound like you love me enough''.

But if caught, what's the point? He already had everything recorded, besides apologizing once, what else could've done to win him back? Nothing. It looks like he wanted me to try though. What's the point of asking/begging for a 2nd chance?

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+1 y

It's too embarrassing asking for a 2nd chance and then I would have to deal with the whole rebuilding trust process, things likely not being the same, starting from an already messed up relationship caused by me, etc.

I've never in my life asked nor begged a man for 2nd chance, never asked to be taken back. Part of me feels like doing that but it's embarrassing. What's the point of that?

[Guy13]

I could laugh about it and it be a fond memory if you really cared but you don’t or you would have done exactly what he said. You love yourself and pride more than him from my perspective as a Guy.

[Asker]

Even if I were to beg and asked for a 2nd chance, things wouldn't be the same, the relationship would already have a bump and there would be trust issues. Plus he would then probably throw it in my face if we were to have an argument.

I have to agree that yes I do have a pride. I just don't ever see myself begging a man for forgiveness nor asking him a 2nd chance. That's too much humble pie to eat, not in my character either. I loved him but I wouldn't go that low either.

[Guy13]

Alright. Lesson learned. Give relationships a break for a year. Take some time to clear your head maybe

[petitedollbabee]

I can’t understand what kind of person you’d have to be to date someone over a bet. That’s just horrible and sad. I hope he moves on and finds a woman who wants to date him for who he is, rather than a bet.

[Asker]

The thing is it backfire in the end. In the end, I did ended up loving him and felt terrible about it, canceled the bet and made a promise not to ever do that again on anyone.

[petitedollbabee]

Too little too late by the sounds of it.

[Asker]

True and I didn't try to win him back. I don't like begging nor asking for 2nd chance. It just doesn't seem right. I deserved to get dumped and begging for feel like loveboming him to be in a relationship he doesn't want to be in.