It has been 6 months since my ex broke up with me. My ex randomly texted me today and told me he still "hasn't grieved what has happened the past 6 months" and that he has been throwing himself into work. What does this mean and why would he say that?
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i ended up telling him i grieved months ago and it was the most painful experience ever. we were engaged. worst heartbreak ever. i wasn't afraid to say it but i also told him i'm in a much better place now. he responded by saying he "good for you. i haven't. nor have i moved on." interesting. when he dumped me, he sure seemed very very moved on. i begged and he even laughed in my face and told me he was long gone and that i'd never be good enough.
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If you were honest in the relationship and during the break-up then there are no other explanations required as I see it.
Tbh I think you should be direct and ask him why, assuming you’ve even responded. I say this because his words are clear, so that doesn’t need explanation. But only he can tell you why he decided to come out of the blue and tell you this. If you are over him and have done the work to move on then it’s probably pointless to try understanding what he meant or talk to him about it, as that would likely mess up the progress you’ve made. However if you are willing to have a conversation with him, then it’s a good opportunity to do so.
i'm in the process of trying to move on so i'm not trying to open that can of worms... BUT i am still curious as to why he would tell me that and what it means. does this mean he still has not processed that we're broken up? it has been 6 months...
I guess to me, what he said is pretty clear: over the past 6 months he’s thrown himself into his work rather than address the breakup and heal from it. But what is the point in telling you, you know? It just sounds like some sort of declaration, and it’s like ok sorry to hear you haven’t processed things, but what’s the point of reaching out just to say that? Like does he want closure? Does he miss you? Does he want to hear how you’re doing and wondering if you are also struggling? That’s where my head is when I say you should have a conversation with him, if you’re even interested in doing so.
i ended up telling him i grieved months ago and it was the most painful experience ever. we were engaged. worst heartbreak ever. i wasn't afraid to say it but i also told him i'm in a much better place now. he responded by saying he "good for you. i haven't. nor have i moved on." interesting. when he dumped me, he sure seemed very very moved on. i begged and he even laughed in my face and told me he was long gone and that i'd never be good enough.
I’m so sorry to hear he put you through that, and honestly I think your response was perfect. Whatever or whoever he left you for was obviously a big mistake, and I’m glad that you are showing him that with your actions now rather than caving and giving him another chance. Someone like that does not deserve it. You will be rewarded with a much better person!
he left me and our daughters for his married coworker he met 2 months prior. yupppp! shit didn't work out for them. thanks for the kind words :)
What? Wow, what a scumbag. Some people always think the grass is greener on the other side when in reality it’s greener where you water it. What’s unfortunate is that he’s telling you he hasn’t grieved what he’s done, but where’s the apology for what he’s done? Seems like instead he’s rather victimize himself and that’s ridiculous. He deserves every bit of the pain he has yet to feel. Anyway, I applaud the progress you’ve made and the strength you are displaying now. That’s amazing🙏
Maybe he means he hasn't had time to process his feelings and reflect on the relationship etc.