How do you avoid feeling lonely after a messy break up with your long term partner?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Mostly I have a good time, but some days feel lonely because I am in his country and he used to be my person here. I didn’t have anyone but him here.

I have some great friends but they live in different cities.

Others are married and I can only meet them once in a while.

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Or that might be because I am in Taxi and the driver has some romantic sad songs on 😅

[Guy13]

You do not avoid. One stays alone and deals with it.

[itsalyssaagain]

It’s normal to feel lonely and you just have to let the break up take it’s course unfortunately.


Try and be around family as much as you can. Invest your time into a new hobby. This is my best advice.

[Anonymous]

The trick is too not get attached. That way when there's a break up there is no real hurt feelings.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He was my fiance though… And he cheated on me and left for that girl and stays loyal to her and cut all ties with me.

[Opinion Owner]

So you have to look on the bright side. He wasn't the guy you thought he was you missed the warning signs and you got hurt because of it.
But the bright side is you found out before you were married, you found out before you were together for years him cheating the whole time behind you back, you found out before you had kids with him. You actually dodged a bullet. And best of all this other woman won this "prize".🙃
Now what do you do? You learn from this! You don't make the same mistake twice.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I believe He wouldn’t cheat on me when married. We were in the forced long distance due to the pandemic rules. He got his feelings faded and met that girl around that time.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

His mom has been messaging me non-stop, telling me that girl is a manipulator and she wishes I contact him and get him back.

The thing is I contacted him and told him I would forgive right after I heard about cheating, but he chose that girl.

I won’t make that mistake anymore.

I just feel sad he stays loyal to that random girl instead of his fiancée. We actually lived together before the long distance and we were planning marriage, when I’d be back in his country.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He is a highly attractive male, well, probably one of the best looking ones in Asia. I can see how that girl would really try her beat to get him but I feel sad that she managed that.

And that he cheated on me after waiting for me for so long. He could wait for 3 more months and I’d be back in his country.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

When we were together he was an ideal boyfriend. The nicest man you could dream to have by your side.

I would never imagine he’d cheat on me.

Actually when he confessed that, I had a hard time believing.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Gosh… I talk a lot. But I have to say.

I don’t feel like I dodged a bullet, I felt like I had a great boyfriend, loving, caring, sweet, dedicated, nice and one of the best looking ones you can get out there and I lost him. I feel like I lost evolutionary speaking, in a way that he was supposed to be the dad of my children and now, he will be the dad of some other woman’s children.

He was also my first boyfriend and I was his first girlfriend. I have no idea why he would sacrifice what we had for another girl.

[Opinion Owner]

Yep, none of this surprises me. You're too close to it to even see it. You'll either eventually learn from this when the pain wears off. Or you won't learn from this and you'll keep repeating this pattern with other men as well. Some women learn fast, some women learn slow, some women... never learn.

[DaveJord]

I try to meet other women and move on.

[Wise4myage]

Don't spend too much time alone, that can really help.

[Karl3285]

Fuck with another guy get lots of orgasms it will flicker ur hormones and mood 🤪

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

If that’s what I wanted I would easily do. But I am not interested in that.

[Danny_dan92]

Do things that make you happy