Do you still feel heart broken by your first love?

[Anonymous]

When I was 18 I worked for a event company. I worked on tours as basically abit of rowdy but I was literally the bottom of hierarchy because I was only a baby back then really. I always got the horrible jobs but that meant I got to meet the stars of the show more because I was cleaning up there sick and taking abuse off there mangers and such.

Around this time I was working on tour with a indie band that were pretty big in the UK but even bigger now. The lead singer had a massive addiction problem to alcohol and drugs but I didn't see that at the time I just he was having a good time and was getting abit carried away. It was always my job to clean his mess up. I found him to be really annoying and ungrateful the entire tour.

At the end of the tour the team had a little outing to say goodbye. Later in the evening the band came out with us and that's were I actually came face to face with the lead singer I'd been cleaning up after.

He bought me a drink and made a joke about how he'll clean up my vomit tonight if I have a drink with him. He ended up charming himself into a relationship with me. I was 18 and the idea of dating a indie singer was so exciting to me.

He was my first in everything and I really loved him and thought I could fix him.

We were together for 6 months until I walked in on him cheating. He'd stopped texting me as much so I knew something was wrong. He tried apologising and making excuses but we weren't exclusive and I should know what it's like in the music industry... I was 18 and he was 24.

I think he took advantage of the fact I was so young and naive and hoped I'd turn a blind eye because of all the excitement of dating a star.

He broke my heart massively and I was in such a mess for a very long time. I've moved on but I still feel used.

He has gotten help for his addition now and did end up calling me to say sorry afterwards but it still hurts at times.

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Just hurts knowing I gave him my everything and it was nothing to him. I was just another girl to him and I did everything I could to help him and now he's better his life is great again and I'm all forgotten about

[sawno]

No, the first girl I loved was deceitful so that was easy to get over. I did need to learn that the hard way though since she was my first after all. She had her reasons I understood the first time, but when she did it a second time all my love for her was gone.

The second girl I loved was hard to get over and I loved her for a quite a while after but when those feelings faded I moved on. Eventually after that point she came back but we were very different people and the things we had in common we no longer did. So it was very awkward and at that point it was obvious that was the last time we'd ever talk since we had nothing to talk about. It made me realize how incompatible we were all along.

The last girl I also healed from the heartbreak, all that pain is gone, by far the most intense one since I never loved someone as much as I love her. But something was different that never happened before. When the pain healed my love for her grew instead of fading away with it. And as I always said the beauty is that love on its own doesn't hurt. So I do consider myself over the heartbreak since I am no longer hurt and emotionally completely myself again. But unlike previous times I know this love won't fade since if it would have it would have already or it would have at least gotten less intense. Instead she always has a special place in my heart. And if we ever get reunited I can do so without any hard feelings about what happened, and with all the love I have for her not only intact but even stronger.

This doesn't mean I am now forever blocked from having someone else of course, I am sure with the right person I could build a similar level of love since I don't believe love itself is exclusive. But it does put me at a place where if reunion does happen it would mean I can accept her back without the pain or negativity getting in the way while loving her at least as much as I did before.

So now I am over the heartbreak and single I am really focussing on myself. I am fixing the things that prevented us from succeeding in hopes of being ready when the next relationship oppertunity comes.

[Guy13]

My first real love was supposed to be my last, however, after grad school together and being engaged she decided that “this is not what I signed up for.” My job was not conducive to being one place together and the next couple years had that look to it.

She wanted me home to make babies and live traditional family and that was not happening for what looked like possibly 5 years. Oh well and hell 💍, Done and over.
Yeah, still feel her but on with life. The first one, you know.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, that was forever ago, also you can't change people.

[Julia1244]

Not anymore after half a year it goes away the pain