Why did she keep calling her babydaddy?

[SamLopez1111]

I’m dating a girl with a kids and the father wants nothing to do with her or the kids. He pays child support and lives over 100mi away (she moved away from him) I’ve dated her for over a year and never seen him. Thing is she will always call him and start fights with him about not seeing his kids but I’m just wondering why does she keep calling him over and over. She will call either him or his mother at least 5 times a week.

[Guy13]

This girl has not terminated the relationship with her Ex and Baby Daddy. This is not about the kids but staying emotionally attached in this "fake relationship" that the Ex doesn't even care about. Your girlfriend is truly not available and will never be fully invested in you two's relationship.

The best thing you can do for yourself is to slowly and kindly back completely out and let this woman figure out her life. You are powerless in this dynamic as in you have no influence.

[SamLopez1111]

Ok what makes you say that I was thinking it was more so either we could go out more alone without the kid or just cause she wants him to be a present father.

[burlen]

She may be hoping that he will change his mind about wanting to be involved in their child's life. Despite his past behavior, she may still hold out hope that he will eventually come around and want to be a part of their child's life. By calling him frequently and trying to get him to be more involved, she may be trying to make that happen.

She may be trying to vent her frustrations about the situation. If she feels like he is not doing enough to support their child, she may call him to express her anger and disappointment. This could be a way for her to release her emotions and feel like she is doing something to address the situation.

She may be trying to use the calls as a way to keep him accountable. By calling him frequently and reminding him of his responsibilities as a father, she may be hoping to ensure that he continues to pay child support and doesn't completely disappear from their child's life.

She may have unresolved feelings for him. Even if she doesn't want to be in a relationship with him, she may still have strong emotions tied to their past relationship. Calling him frequently may be a way for her to feel connected to him, even if it is in a negative way.

[slatyb]

Run away!! Too much drama.