How to hurt someone in the least painful way?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Let’s say there’s someone you have to hurt, because he is not really your type.

You do care about his feelings though and you don’t really want to hurt him, but not hurting him means putting his happiness over yours.

How would you hurt in the least painful way, to not hurt his self-esteem?

[Guy13]

I rather be straight with now and not disrespect you rather than drag this out and misrepresenting my feelings towards you. 30 sec pause for him to replay tgat statement.

Into the truth in one sentence explanation. This works very well with women cause I’m cutting off that emotional attachment and devastation

[dynamicyandere]

It’s best to give a more straightforward answer, so that he won’t have the mental torment of questioning what he did wrong or questioning his self-worth, etc.


If he simply isn’t your type, you can just let him know that you think he’s a great person, but in terms of chemistry, you’re looking to be with someone that has a stronger level of chemistry with you.


You’re looking for someone that’s more compatible with you and you hope he can find someone that is more compatible with him.


That way he can move on faster and he knows it’s not that he’s bad, it’s just a incompatibility thing—and that happens between people all the time.

[Grond21]

The answer to that is to not take responsibility for his feelings. Instead, focus on your own behavior, aiming to be respectful and clear. If you hit both of these, any mature man will greatly appreciate your way of saying no. Far too often we get ambiguous unhelpful answers from women who are trying to spare our feelings, but in the process it comes across as condescending and disrespectful. We would far rather have you show that you respect us by giving us an answer that contains kindness but most of all, clarity

[Bricealan]

Refuse to sit on his face, and then say 'mean things' to him, like: "You have a micro-penis", or "You can't eat me worth a damn"or "I never really liked you anyway"

That should work.

[Still-alive]

Just be straight up honest with him. That’s always best. If he's mature he will respect your feelings.

[Still-alive]

And rip the band aid off sooner rather than later too.

[loveslongnails]

Use the analogy of two strong magnets that repel each other. LOL

[Bklynbadboy12]

I'm so lost right now if you liked them. Why would you want to hurt them and if you're not interested in him just be honest with him and tell him

[TrillXHippy]

Tell him that he’s not your type in a nice way

[In_Trance]

tell him, straight up