Attachment issues?

[Fwcheerios]

Why does my heart miss him so much. He’s all I can think about. Even though he was a narcissist, he disrespected me, he didn’t value our relationship, and he was emotionally unavailable. WHY does my heart still want and miss him. It’s not fair to me. I want to stop loving him, he didn’t deserve me and I didn’t deserve to put up with all the things he made me go through. I feel like I can’t live without him. Is this attachment issues and how do I get rid of them? My heart is so broken I genuinely can’t handle this anymore.

[nawtee_me]

How long were you two together? It may not be attachment issues as much as it may just be a change from what was normal at the time. That means that what you feel now without him is just the abnormal. Time will change that as you get back to a better normal then what you had.

[Fwcheerios]

A year

[nawtee_me]

Just from what you had said you really do deserve better. Maybe your world is not falling apart, maybe it is falling into place.

[Anonymous]

First of all I’d think back into my life was someone in my life who was important to me treated the same way? Maybe your mother? Maybe your ex was exactly the way your father was? So where along the line you learned this.

[Xtendable]

I think some form of attachment is what we cling to, even if its damaging. We adjust to things and accept people’s bad traits, at the risk of being hurt, and we rationalise that we can handle it.

[LoveYourself24]

Because women have this tendency to love men who treat them like shit, not sure what it is but hey you do you.