Girls, why did my girl leave me after 11 months?

[Anonymous]

I lived with a girl for over 11 months, I kept her home because I didn’t want her to break her back at the only available jobs (warehouses) I bought her everything, paid every fine paid for all the expenses and bills and everything she ever requested or wanted. I stopped my university as I couldnt afford to keep her by my side as she wasn’t working. I made many sacrifices for her during my time with her, even moving back to her country so she could be alongside her loved ones. Once we moved back, she had an awful behaviour and I couldn’t recognise her. We had a back break up and she ended up kicking me out on the streets. She now has blocked me and

I just want to know what was going through her head.

I felt like she had no appreciation or respect for all the things I did for her, all the protection, care, love and compassion I had for her. I felt betrayed and used and taken advantage of the good heart I had.

Can anyone explain as to why she would do that to me, when she had everything in the world she could’ve asked for.

[SueShe]

She would be the only person that could really answer your question.

My opinion is that she got what she wanted from you while she was with you and that now, you are no longer of interest to her.

Now, why did YOU move to HER country? Are you also from her country? You should never have interrupted your studies because now you will have a hard time resuming them.

As to why she misused you? She probably did not see you as someone that she may be with a lifelong and she simply used you for as long as it was convenient with you. It could also be that she was influenced by her parents and/or family.

Your best and only way is to forget about her and to learn your lesson never to trust a person for as long as you don't know them for at least 3 years mainly if those people are from a different country with a different mentality that you are not familiar with.

[Asker]

I’m from the same country as her, I speak the language fluently, but I was abroad for over 16 years so it was practically something new to me.

Her family didn’t influence her as they all really liked me. A lot of the time they would take my side and she would be jealous over the fact that they liked me so much.

[Anonymous]

I would be annoyed if the guy paid for everything and didn’t allow me to get out and work and help. I’d also be annoyed if he quit school for me. She probably got tired of all the things you both sacrificed to be with eachother

[Asker]

She didn’t really want to go to work as she messed up her back working. I kept her home so she wouldn’t hurt herself at the only available jobs, which were hard labour depots.

I quit school as we couldn’t exactly afford for neither of us to work, or for myself to only work part time.

[EmmaMary]

Obviously you couldn't have given her everything!

[Asker]

I gave her all I could to offer, whether it was to make sacrifices for her, do the things she asked of me, changed my behaviour, to be better.

She changed drastically the minute she got back to our native country

[Anonymous]

"Can anyone explain as to why she would do that to me, when she had everything in the world she could’ve asked for."

Apparently, you have that so very wrong.

[Asker]

I offered her all the love I ever could, protected her at all cost, paid for everything during my time with her, and maintained both of us.

I gave her what she wished whenever she wished for it, from as little as buying her hair serums, to boost her self esteem, to going back to our native country so she could live alongside her family