Are you a vengeful ex?

[ariadneR]

I feel the general consensus will be a no, however if you were in a relationship and it ended badly, would you deliberately go after your ex and try to ruin their reputation or name? Whether it be right away, or even years later

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

For the first few months I was furious, I was angry at the whole universe, but unable to be angry at him.

At that time, even if I was capable of hurting him, I wouldn’t be able to do so. I wanted whole world to disappear but I wanted him to be the one to survive.

I was really angry, hurt and upset. But now I think, he was my baby, I loved him a lot, I wouldn’t want him to suffer or live a pitiful life. I want him to be happy.

And I would never do anything to hurt him, if I know he needs my help and I am capable of doing that, he’ll always have my back, if his family needs my help, I’ll always be there to help.

But I wouldn’t want to ever meet him again.

Our last meeting was beautiful, he took me to the airport, I was going to have a two week trip and he was so attached to me - we both cried. We were thinking what if I can’t come back for the next 1 month or so. We could never imagine we would be distanced for over two years. He was kissing me and telling me how much he loved me and that he would be here at home waiting for me to come back. He was kissing my teary eyes and telling me not to worry, he’d see me very soon.

That was the last day I met him and I’d like to keep it that way.

But I want him happy because whether we are together or not now, doesn’t affect the fact that I loved truly and wholeheartedly and that he loved me the same way.

I’d be devastated to know something happened to him.

I am happy knowing he’s somewhere out there, living his life, waking up and going to sleep, being happy, smiling. World would be such an empty place if he didn’t exist in it.

Knowing that he’s fine - makes me feel peaceful.

If I believed in God, I would ask him to protect him.

But that doesn’t mean I want us to ever go back to each other, he hurt me too much for me to ever be able to be with him again. But I choose to understand and forgive him.

[jennifer_bloom]

A guy I never went on a single date with has been spreading lies about me online in conjunction with a corrupt liar he is having sex with and mobilizing against me. I’m religious and I think it’s just a matter of time before something happens to block them from ever bothering me again. I already know multiple enemies of mine that are no longer in the picture.

[ZXCwWRQWz]

I am a sad "no". No vengeful bone in my body. I just kept questioning what I did wrong. One time I did an embarrassing thing of writing a long-winded letter to an ex (like 25 pages long) of how much I loved her and missed her recalling all our dates and trying to explain where I went wrong and how I can fix it. I'm that type when I break up, but never vengeful.

[DizzyDesii]

Wow thats like super sweet

[ZXCwWRQWz]

@DizzyDesii Also maybe super lame! :-D

[DizzyDesii]

Not at all. You showed great effort.

[ZXCwWRQWz]

@DizzyDesii Problem is that I have a complete asshole side. I called the same one I wrote a letter to above a dumb bitch. :-D I got very angry and it was very immature (she tore up the flowers I brought to her as an apology though in front of all my friends; I got a bit childish after that). All life lessons as I see it; at the end of the day I'm only left with my own mistakes. But I got awesome wife now!

[DizzyDesii]

Ahh okay. Yea calling me the B word is the ultimate no-no. But at least you learned

[ZXCwWRQWz]

@DizzyDesii I lack a vengeful side when I'm thinking about what I'm doing but I have a belligerent impulsive side when I'm hurt. That's my problem. I never wish even the people I have worst encounters with a bad life but I can get angry at times and say dumb shit. It's the difference for me between heated and cooled. I never have malicious thoughts when I'm actually thinking, but I had tendency to act like a jerk when I was heated in the moment.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i’m the same. But when i say shit, i dont apologize after because i meant it 😂

[ZXCwWRQWz]

@DizzyDesii I think that's very mentally stable! Everything you say is what you mean. That one time I called that ex a "dumb bitch", I didn't really mean it. I was just so hurt that she tore up the flowers in front of all my friends, and maybe so embarrassed by it, but I blurted out "dumb bitch" even though I didn't really mean it. Actually if I could only say things I really mean (think I'm doing better these days; this was many years ago), I will be in so much better place.

[God_of_Thunder]

Nope, not at all. I prefer to just move on, and try to forget about them.

As a matter of fact, one of the very last things I said to my most recent ex was, "I'm not looking for revenge, nor will I ever. Despite what you did, I'm just not that kind of guy. I'm devestated, and I'm angry, but not even that will change who I am."

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

No… I just pray karma gets them eventually… just because someone might be a POS, don’t mean I have to be one… no one is worth that, not to me anyways

[Chancerlifter]

I was. My ex husband had a two year affair til I fully caught him. He then had a new steady girlfriend, so I snuck into his truck and left my used panties there. She got super jealous and left him.

[BlackJeep]

No. Maybe. Getting dumped unexpectedly motivated me to lose some weight, buy some nicer clothes, find new hobbies and post all of that on social media to show her that I leveled up. After she contacted me it was all worth it because then I could reject her and move on.

[Andres77]

If you really loved somebody, you never seek to do them delivered harm even if they hurt you first. You can disagree with that if you want but I don’t care. it’s simple truth. if you really love somebody, even if they hurt you, you do not seek to hurt them back. that’s real love.

[DizzyDesii]

In high school, yes. Two could play that game. But as an adult, no. I try not to fck around with karma

[MementoMori777]

Nah, I respect the fact that she wants nothing to do with me, shit happens and even if they would've cheated on me, I wouldn't sink down to the same miserable level no matter what.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I'm friends with most of the women who dumped me. Life happens. Their loss. I'm not going to waste the energy being mad or vengeful.

[OfMiceandMen]

Not at all. I always looked on the bright side of life. The first thing to come across my mind is "I'm Freeeeeee!!!"

[exitseven]

No, even when I was dumped in a really bad way I just walk away and try to put it behind me.

[LiamJHayden]

Nope. Never had a bad breakup, but even if I did I'd rather look at today and tomorrow than yesterday.

[dudeinohio]

Absolutely not. I'd simply move on ang go about my life.

[Guardian45]

For all my former GFs? No. First my Ex-wife? Maybe!

[riverrat3]

No way, if I liked them enough to want to date them or more, why not be friends, now if they really used me, that might be different

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope what I'm done I'm done there not my problem anymore

[In_Trance]

no. When we're done, we're done

[CubaPirate]

Nah I'm above all that

[krin_m]

Not at all! I totally move on.

[eagle1951]

i was back in the early 70;s lol

[Anonymous]

Nah I'm busy in making my future ex...

[Jmmmfi4]

Very much so

[roy_ricky09]

Hell yeah

[EaterPeter]

Mostly no

[EaterPeter]

I won't go after

[Amur8711]

So far, no.

[Anonymous]

No I'm not. :)