Is Domestic Abuse?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been talking to this guy for 3 months he seemed really nice but he was very clingy fast. When I say clingy I mean he held my hand on the first date and had me meet his mom on the second date.

I quickly notice his dislike with me hanging out with my friends. The first time he saw me hang out with my friends he wanted to sleep together. The second time he asked me what I’ve been doing all day and I told him hanging out with my friends (one of the them is a guy) he left me hickeys without my consent. The third time I posted myself hanging out with my friends, he started following other women and he stops watching my stories. But he still follows me. Not only that every time I get a text message on my phone he looks at my phone. Like every time I open my phone around him he’s staring dead at the screen

[kylee2437]

Sounds like there’s just no discussion going on in terms of boundaries which is essentially your fault also. If you weren’t comfortable with him holding your hand, or you meeting his mother that quickly - you should’ve spoken up. If you didn’t want him leaving hickeys on you , you should’ve spoken up. If you have issues with how he uses social media and such - speak up. The common denominator is you not holding tight boundaries

[Asker]

I should’ve. But, because of past relationships it’s hard for me to speak up. I just removed him on everything.

[kylee2437]

You shouldn’t be in relationships if you can’t properly communicate your boundaries.

[AllAloneInTheWorld]

That Is not domestic abuse at all. However, the behaviour would make me talk to him to set boundaries and to let him know I wasn't comfortable with certain things he was doing

[MementoMori777]

Aayyoo leave hickeys without your consent, you can't just say that like it's normal and walk over it like that, who did that and how did they manage to accomplish that wtf 😂

And no it's not domestic abuse, it falls more into the obsessive and possessive categories more than domestic abuse and I don't know who gave you hickeys without your consent but that's sexual assault.

[Asker]

Yea he was kissing my neck but I didn’t realize he gave me hickeys. 5 at that

[MementoMori777]

Wtf lol

[Asker]

Yea I blocked him today. He’s mad at me because I hang out with my friends. So he’s ignoring me now. I honestly don’t have time for his shit

[MementoMori777]

Why is he so possessive over you tho? He's trippin

[Asker]

I wish I knew the answer to that. When I first went over to his house. He would not let me leave. Like I left at 1am because he wouldn’t let me leave. But, whoever he’s talking to right now I wish them well.

[MementoMori777]

Damn that's dangerous, I'm glad you got away from him and damn, poor person 😂

[Vikkrram]

No it's nothing like domestic abuse at all