Why does showing no emotions or acting like you don’t care make a girl want you (more in details)?

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Two girls:

Girl 1: she broke up with me and I cried in front of her begging not to break up with me. She moved on from me and never came back to me.

Girl 2: she broke up with me and I acted like I didn’t care. I just told her “yeah, I understand and hope you have a good life. Thank you for the memories by the way.”
Girl 2 then came back trying to get me back after a couple of days. Deep down inside I felt really sad she was breaking up with me but I showed no emotions. I learned my lesson from the first girl.

[provokeesmokee]

Same applies for women, frankly.

But also, just... Everyone learns to manage their emotions. That's called emotional regulation and it's normal and healthy.

My first break up was super messy. I caught my ex cheating and we had to break a lease so I could move out asap. I cried a lot, but mostly out of anger. I never wanted him back.

My second was also hard, but I didn't cry much. I felt relieved to be leaving him because he couldn't deal with emotion or even "doing what he needed to do". He got emotional during our break up chat and I wasn't able to give him the feedback I wanted or gain closure in the way I wanted.

In my third, again, not much emotion in the moment of the break up. For both parties' sake, I wanted it to be as low key emotionally at I could make it. I cried a ton after, on my own.

It isn't that people don't want to see your emotion. It's that begging and pleading are not attractive in someone you're breaking up with. And emotional maturity and regulation are attractive.

[anon1903]

I think you're confusing it all.
In the first scenerio, you were desperate and whiny.
In the second, you were accepting, understanding and neutral.

If someone says they wanna break up, the worst thing you can do is to probably beg for them not to. They've made up their mind. Lmao.

Not indifference, rationality 101 for you.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Women might deny this, but I think they like drama. All you got to do is make it look like it's their fault and they come crawling back. But yeah... if you go full regret or show you're regretful about anything, they'll go full ruthless mode and drop you like a bad habit.

When it comes to women I've never gotten very far being a nice guy. I'm always better off talking shit and making fun of her. Sounds mean right? but it fucking works. All that blue-pilled stuff will just get you cheated on for some guy that calls her a bitch and makes fun of her eyebrows.

[OlderAndWiser]

Women SAY they want a man who can express his feelings, but they are merely parroting the socially acceptable line that they are expected to recite. What they REALLY want is a manly man with great confidence and most women think that is inconsistent with a guy who cries over a break up.

Blows dead bears but that's the way I think it really works!

[On_cloud_wine]

I think you should wear your heart on your sleeve because some people understand phycology and if I knew your background, I’d prob react differently

[On_cloud_wine]

Psychology

[TransPickle]

I guess there's a lot of guys that might give off the creepy vibes and the girls like nah. guys that come on too strong initially and just want sex, women can see through all the douchebags. This post got me thinking that when I'm outside I don't look at women anymore and its amazing what happens. It will make you into a chick magnet.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Well it's captain obvious that it just feeds their ego if you plea with them. They expect you to whine but if you show no hard feelings, its not something they planned which hurts their ego

[Anonymous]

I assume you are single. 🤦‍♂️

[Anonymous]

Beats me.