How to deal with missing an ex?

[Anonymous]

I think im going through my first real breakup and its draining me so much. This might sound too cheesy but he's my first love and i met him at 22. We did so much together, talked about everything, went everywhere. Now literally everything and every place reminds me of him and i feel even more miserable each time. Its like my chest is actually hurting inside and out. I dont feel good at all. I feel like im getting sick. I tried getting drunk to feel better but i just laughed for one minute and cried the rest of the day. And then i ended up calling him. I dont know what to fucking do. This other guy i dated texted me yesterday and we ended up hanging out (we didn't hookup, he knew i needed a friend), and it made me realize im probably never gonna love anyone else. I can't even imagine kissing another guy let alone fuck someone else. I feel like i would feel disgusted.
He's the only man i want. He's moving across the country next week for a job and we said we were gonna hangout until he leaves but he changed his mind saying its too hard for him to see me again. I thought i was gonna see him again. I was gonna worry about my heartbreak after he left. But im miserable now. I also barely have any friends at this point in my life so i can't go to anyone. I feel like i only have myself. And my dog.

[ohsheeT]

First of all I have to say we've all been through this and it totally sucks and I feel bad for you

Ok here we first tell if your dog is mopping around with you on slow motion if he is you might under stand every thing about to say better

Okay so you meet this guy you start doing all these crazy things together

It's fun it's exciting he's opening these doors up inside of you that haven't been open for a long time and each one of those doors with each thing that you do makes you smile makes you happy and you start thinking about things about love and you think to this guy is just the greatest because he's making you feel all these wonderful things

But what you have to understand is that you are the only person on the inside of you you are the only person that can make those feelings happen it's like your dog you're depressed so he's depressed he has no reason to be depressed but he's trying to tell you how much he wishes you would get it together he knows that he's the only one on the inside of him and he's always happy and he hates that you're down so he's going to be down to say I'm sorry you have to go through this but I understand something you are the person that made you feel all those wonderful things it was only you the guy opened up the doors for you because it was all brand new to you it was exciting to you is refreshing

It's like if you play throw the stick for your dog he's so happy you know why he's happy because he's doing it to make you happy so he's getting energized his tail is wagon he's rushing to that stick he's grabbing it and bringing it back to you as fast as he possibly can because he thinks it pleases you so he's happy inside he knows that he can make himself happy inside by making you happy if he's happy you're going to be happy

Your dog will die for you to make you happy because whatever you think you're doing for your dog believe me he thinks he's doing it for you
Because it makes you happy that's why you're doing because you're the only person that can make yourself feel that nobody else can so everything you guys did together and all those feelings they came from you


Just like your dog he's thinking in his head she's doing this because she's happy so I'm going to be happy too and I'm going to go get that stick for her and bring it back to her because she loves throwing it so much you know what I mean so snap out of it it's not what you think it is watch try this throw the stick for your dog go do something with your mom your sister go have fun open up their doors and watch what happens they will be ecstatic because it's new to them they're opening their doors up inside of them they're having fun because they're making themselves happy because you're there being happy so get on with it girl get happy you're the only one that can do that quit wasting time I'm feeling bad because he's not going to be there opening up those doors for you anymore that's really what it's all about your morning him for not being there to open up those doors for you open them up yourself you can do this

[Anonymous]

I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a difficult time with your breakup. Breakups can be incredibly painful, especially when it's your first love and you've shared so many experiences together. It's normal to feel a deep sense of loss, sadness, and even physical pain during this period.

It's important to give yourself time to grieve and heal. Healing from a breakup takes time, and everyone's process is different. Allow yourself to feel the emotions and don't be too hard on yourself for experiencing them. It's natural to have moments of sadness, longing, and even confusion.

While it's understandable that you may not be ready to imagine being with someone else right now, it's important to remember that healing and moving on is a gradual process. It's okay to take your time and focus on self-care, self-reflection, and rediscovering your own identity outside of the relationship.

Lean on the support of those around you, including friends, family, or even support groups or therapy. It can be helpful to have someone to talk to who can provide guidance and a listening ear during this challenging time.

Additionally, consider engaging in activities that bring you joy or help distract you from the pain, whether it's spending time with your dog, pursuing hobbies, or exploring new interests. Taking care of yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally is crucial during this period of healing.

Remember, you are not alone, and with time, self-care, and support, you will gradually start to heal and find happiness again.

[_Maya_]

Aww! I am so sorry you are going through this. Sounds like this breakup was not a bad one but out of necessity because he is moving. That is really tough to deal with. Just remember that this is very fresh and time is the thing that heals wounds. It is just going to take time to process everything and get some closure in your own way. After time, you will move on. Just don't expect it to be quick. People deal with that at different paces and it might take you longer since you are so fond of him.

[kylee2437]

We have all felt like this before. This won’t be the only guy for you, I promise. Break ups are always very hard and it’s totally okay not to be okay. You are mourning a loss. It’s going to take time. I highly recommend not getting into self destructive behavior over this though. Break ups and losses are always a good chance to highlight on what needs to be worked on in your life and it gives you better motivation to fix those issues. Evaluate your relationship. Take time for yourself.

[AviatorTom]

Best way to get over an ex is to find a new guy. Best of luck!

[Finchie40]

I know it’s easier said than done , but the only real thing that helps most of us get over an ex , is time , so the best thing for you to do , is to just focus on yourself and put time into yourself , basically stay single and mingle starts reaching out to your friends or start making new friends or get yourself a hobby that you can enjoy to help keep your mind off of things and until you realize you deserve someone that wouldn’t walk away from you period. Understand an ex is an ex for a reason , Look at it this way , if an ex actually truly cared about you , and really truly loved you , than they wouldn’t be Your ex period , When someone you thought loved you the same way you loved them , can just get up and walk away from you , then they never truly valued you or loved you in the first place, they were only infatuated with you and liked the convenience of you , so why would you want to beat yourself up and hurt inside and miss someone that didn’t feel the same about you? That didn’t want to make you their priority? Understand, you deserve someone that will make you their top priority, and will stand by your side no matter what , the same way you stand by theirs, My advice to you is to cut all ties with your ex and exempt him from your life block him and cut all ties , to help yourself move on and eventually find yourself someone that will truly love you that won’t walk away from your side, My advice to you is to never ever take an ex back period , I don’t care if they had a change of heart and they tell you they are sorry for leaving you , cuz it’s all lies , they weren’t sorry for leaving you they are sorry that they only loved and cared about themselves ,, making them a selfish person , by only thinking about what was best for them at that time, and the truth is , they more than likely were investing their time into someone else , instead of investing their time into you, never hold on to someone that can’t hold on to you period , that doesn’t make you their top priority. The only way love grows between 2 people , is by both people Removing selfishness for each other and making each other their top priority , your ex could not remove selfishness for you , so realize that relationship wasn’t a real relationship , cuz people that truly love each other don’t walk away from each other period , Most of us experience bad relationships throughout our lifetime , those bad relationships don’t always have to be bad , they can actually be good , by helping you find better , someone that will love you the way you love them period

[Sanser]

Its sad but the only thing that can heal you is time... and it would be perfect to enjoy time with family and friends... keep you busy, from time to time you will think about him but at the end you recover :)

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I feel you.

It will pass.

You’ll hurt and hurt and hurt, until someday you don’t hurt that much anymore.

[Decoded93]

Give it time and keep being social, meet new people, you might even meet a guy that is so awesome he can take your mind off your ex!

[GOOSEBOY78]

if you ever miss a ex stop laughing and reload the shot gun.

[CuriousMufuxka]

At least you're not going for a rebound. That never works. Couldn't you both do long distance?

[Hyaz11t]

I'd say best medicine for a heart break is company friends family throw the phone away cause then you end up writing novels, leaving stupid voice mailings and ringing to much