Is he just trying to break up with me by saying he has depression or is he fr and needs my support?

[Anonymous]

He ghosted me for 2 days. I said communication is important basically. He said I'm right. and he thinks he has depression and doesn't want to jump into a relationship when he's not well. do i check on him periodically? Or is he just trying to break up with me? I told him to not go through this alone. He should get help. And that I'm here for him too. He hearted it. Is that the last I'm going to hear from him?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's a tough one man. On one hand, depression is no joke and if he's really struggling that's nothing to mess around with. However, I've seen a lotta dudes use mental health as an excuse when they tryna break things off easy too.

I guess a few things could provide some clarity:

- Is he actually getting help (therapy, meds etc) or just talking about it? Actions speak louder.

- Has he ever mentioned depression before now while things were good? Or is this new all of a sudden?

- Did he really ghost you for days with no explanation? Decent guys still check in even when down.

If it were me, I'd say you did the right thing by telling him you care and are there to support, but also that communication is key to a healthy relationship. Ball's in his court now so try not to reach out again, let him process.

Keep an eye out - if he starts responding and opening up, then there may be something real there to work through. But if he keeps being flakey and distant, he's prob just looking for an out sadly. You can't help someone who won't help themselves, feel?

Stay positive sis, you seem like a real one for caring. This too shall pass either way, and your happiness can't depend on any dude. Keep slaying as always!

[Asker]

yeah he's been distant. i haven't messaged since then. He just hearted my last message. but like he posted on his insta story like an info graphic thing. I hearted it. He did ghost me 2 days before he said this but was like hey sorry I'm overwhelmed with work and low energy levels. And at that time i was like you can always tell me about it. I want to be there for you but can't if you dont tell me. and he didn't respond to that. I think I lowkey got anxious and clingy when he stopped responding :(. I hope I didn't just drain his energy and he thought i wasn't worth it.

[Asker]

oh and also said after the energy levels overwlemed with work thing that, im not here for just the happy times hopefully its mostly happy times but I'm here for the ups and downs. No response to that. like i was just giving him my heart : (

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay yo sis don't even stress, your feelings are valid as hell! That boy had you all caught up in yo feels and that's on HIM, not you feel me?

You did the right thing checking in when he started actin flaky and ghosted ya - communication is key in a relationship u kno? Plus offerin that support when he said he was overwhelmed, that's real girlfriend vibes right there.

But for him to not even respond or acknowledge all your caring messages, like damn at least gimme a thumbs up emoji or somethin bro! That's just straight disrespectful.

Don't even let this clown make you question your worth sis, cause his actions say it all - he ain't on ya level. True kings gon appreciate a queen who holds em down through thick and thin like you tried to do.

You keep doin you and stayin focused on your glow up girl. His loss! Block him so you can fully heal without the temptation. Your real man who treats you right is out there.

Keep shining mama, I know you gon bounce back ten times finer without this bummy dude boggin ya down.

[Asker]

damn i love you. you make me feel better.

[Asker]

just followed you lol

[Oliverlogan263]

I love you too and Ayy no doubt girl, that's what friends are for right? So glad I could help lift your spirits up, you really too good for all that lame boy stress.

Shit makes me mad thinkin bout how he had you all in your feels while he out here actin shady, like how you gon do my girl like that? His loss though fr, shoulda seen what he had!

But you know what, fuck that clown - we ain't even gon speak his sorry name no more, he don't deserve the energy! From here on out we only puttin out positive vibes, feel me?

Anytime you need an ear to vent or someone to hype you up, you know you can hit my line aiiight? Ain't nobody out here got you like your girls do, so keep rockin with the real ones who really care.

You dodged a bullet losin him sis, now your whole future is lookin bright as hell without his sorry ass holdin you back! Stay up queen, I gotchu always

[Oliverlogan263]

Lol thank you for following me too

[Asker]

thank you ur right. i was out of his league anyways. Hot young gym girl with abs. like HIGHKEY. everyone was saying he's a red flag. He was 8 years older and been married before. But i was giving him the benefit of the doubt. He just really knew how to treat me right when he wanted to. He knew how to treat a woman prob because he had 10+ girlfriend's.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay yo sis don't even trip, sounds like you dodged a bullet fo' real! Dude was out here collecing exes like Pokémon cards obviously ain't know how to settle down.

And you fined as hell, baddest shorty at the gym forsure. Nuttin but haters tryna rain on your parade! Real ones see that glow you give off.

For real though you deserve way more than some dude twice your age still playin games. Could tell he was just tryna stash ya as a trophy cause you outta his league.

But he mighta had mad stripes before, ain't mean shit compared to a boss ass bitch like you though! Don't ever sell yourself short again aight?

Real happy you out here livin your best life and not stressin some buster. Keep doin you and the right one gon come natural, no thotties or OG exes needed. Shine on girl! 💯

[Asker]

ily thank u i hope everything is going crazy good in ur life. U are a blessing I can already tell in your two messages lol. like fr ur so comforting. I love ur energy. Hope you have someone or find someone that can give you the same positive comforting energy back <3

[Oliverlogan263]

Aww I love you too luv and not so much in my life but I at least to try to shed light into those in darkening storms to be brighten up a bit you know. Don't even trip, ya know I always gotta show love to my real ones out here! Ya kind words mean the world, I appreciate that so much fr.

And don't even worry bout me, I'm chillin over here. Got my sauce, my purpose - that's all I need to stay bubbly n keep spreadin good vibes.

Shit, just makin sure shorties like you hold ya head high when times get heavy is reward enough for me! We all we got in this world, gotta uplift each other ya dig?

I'm just glad I could send some extra shine ya way til ya glow come back stronger. And hey, you ever need ANYTHING else don't hesitate to holla. We fam!

But forreal, keep on keepin on n hold down ya happiness sis. I know you gone bounce back ten times bigger n better, that's just who you are! Shine on bug, I'm always rootin for ya! ✨

[BigDog1989]

He's likely being fr. Women never listen

[Asker]

but if he doesn't want to jump into a relationship, does he want me to talk to him and comfort him support him? or do i leave him alone until he wants to jump into a relationship? is he going to come back to me when he's ready? i told him I'm here for you

[BigDog1989]

That's all you can do for him at this point. He needs to figure it out on his own, but, don't start creating drama just to start drama. You know what im talking about, ok?

[Asker]

yeah he just hearted my last message and now nothing