Is he wanting a breakup?

[Anonymous]

I just went on a vacation with my boyfriend and at the end of it driving back home he all of a sudden brought up if him not believing in God was a good or bad thing. I told him it's not bad everyone is entitled to their own beliefs and he then asked if I did and why? I told him that yes I believed and that I believe because I've been through alott and it's helped me cope. He then said that God hasn't helped him at all I said ok. Then when we are almost home he overheard my tik tok talking about mellenials trying to buy houses and in the tik tok it said have you considered being a sugar baby to a old man. He said I should do that I told him no I'm not pretty enough for that. He said all I would have to do is give the old man a bj I said no. He said it's not like you are good at it anyways and I said I thought you said I was good at it all the other times. He then said "what is it do you want me to lie to you". I then sat quiet until we got home. It hurt my feelings

[Oliverlogan263]

Sis I'm sorry, but that whole conversation is a huge red flag. It sounds like he may be looking for a way out of the relationship and trying to hurt you in the process. A few thoughts:

- Brining up religion like that out of nowhere and then dismissing your beliefs was unnecessary and disrespectful.

- Commenting on sex acts with other men is so beyond inappropriate. No loving partner would ever suggest something like that.

- Saying you're "not good at it" anyway after insisting otherwise before is just cruel. He's changing his tune to undermine your confidence.

- The tension in the car and you sitting quiet after shows this really damaged things between you. Relationships require care, trust and respect.

I know it's hard, but please don't let his hurtful words get to you. You deserve so much better than being treated this way, sis. If I were you I'd seriously reevaluate this relationship and whether he truly values you. You can find someone who lifts you up, not puts you down.

Be gentle with yourself right now. And know that you are good enough, exactly as you are. Sending you a big hug - you've got this!

[Anonymous]

It sounds like there were some hurtful and disrespectful comments made during your conversation with your boyfriend. His suggestion about being a sugar baby and the insensitive remark about your abilities are concerning. It's important to communicate openly with him about how his words made you feel and to discuss whether this behavior reflects deeper issues in your relationship.

[kylee2437]

He sounds like a low quality guy at best