How do I get over him and do sweet revenge?

[Lyhra4]

He used me for financial purposes from the very beginning and always said I was the one that he wanted to live with me , that wanted to have kids … now that he knew I want to live abroad he broke up with me and told me he was not sure about me anymore and that he had past issues that he never got over… and in the beginning he seemed 100% sure about me… I finally realized that he might never liked me in the first place 😭😭😭😭😭

[Anonymous]

Lol so he’s guilty w no evidence that he used you? Women logic. Maybe he did want to be w you, but you wanting to live abroad wasn’t what he wanted. I wouldn’t want to live abroad myself knowing all my family is here. Just move on. When you say he used you financially please explain?

[Lyhra4]

Because he wanted to rush things with us like marrying having kids and saying he loved me after some weeks of meeting me. Additionally he wanted me to pay things for him, and to get worse he would side looking to women on instagram chasing them which is not coherent to someone who said he loved me. Apart from this he always said we would make it work even if I decided to go out. I didn’t say I was moving now and he decided to end anyway but now he gave me a reason he never gave before : that he was confused and didn’t get over past things. So that is why I’m saying I feel used in so many ways. I don’t think it ever had to be with me living abroad

[Lyhra4]

I totally believe he used me in many aspects and once he realized it’d be hard to get what he wanted he stepped back. He bomb loved me from the very beginning because everything was completely artificial and fake… you normally don’t say you want to live with a person you barely know and with whom you don’t even know if your compatible

[Opinion Owner]

So then move on. What’s w women and revenge? Grow up you’re 31 years old. He needs to do the same if that’s his game. Women are always set on getting revenge.

[Lyhra4]

I know I need to move on. I just understand why your blaming women in general for getting revenge. Do you think he behaved properly then, and was super correct? Is that it? I know I have to move on and I will it’s just hard to feel so fooled like this and try to forget this in a matter of hours

[Lyhra4]

I just don’t understand why you’re blaming women in general

[Opinion Owner]

Because revenge is a childish thing. Most men don’t do stupid things like that. It’s usually women. The amount of questions I read on here all the time about getting revenge by women on men, even older than you. It’s ridiculous. I’m not saying it’s not a possibility that he used you but there doesn’t seem to be enough evidence to support that. At the same time you know when something is wrong, we all do, it’s an innate feeling. You said he rushed things so why didn’t you stop it? All the things he wanted you to pay for did you? What were they? As for looking at other women all men pretty much are going to do the same. He’s just an idiot in the way he went about it that it was so obvious.

[Lyhra4]

Yes I should have stopped when it all looked too artificial… but I wanted thibgs to work out so desperately… he wanted me to pay dinners lunches , and even said that if he had my money he would buy a certain car then later on showed me that car…. Additionally he told he had an ex that had a lot of issues but she was good at paying him things….

[Opinion Owner]

So why not take the L in this, learn from it then move on. You kind of out this on your self partially knowing that you were desperate so you were willing to overlook all the red flags there.

[Lyhra4]

Thank you so much for your wise advices I just want to forget this 😔

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sorry. I know you really wanted something out of it. But there’s no point in getting revenge. Learn from it, keep trucking.

[Lyhra4]

Thank you 🤍

[Billlewis]

One of the best ways to get revenge on a guy who has taken advantage of you is to make him extremely jealous. If you know where he is in the evenings and on weekends, just bring another guy over there with you and wear a very skimpy outfit, and you'll drive him crazy with jealous frustration.

[Lyhra4]

I will do that

[Billlewis]

That's wonderful! I just started following you and I'd be honored if you would follow me as well, if it's alright.

[Lyhra4]

That’s ok

[Anonymous]

get an actual lawyer if he took advantage of you financially. be an adult.

[boggboss]

So u want revenge on him even tho u don't know if he did take advantage of u

[Lyhra4]

I don’t know?

[boggboss]

Are u the person that is upset the guy left them after your life goals didn't match up

[Lyhra4]

It’s not a matter of goals he changed his speech aftwr a month saying he loved me and was sure about me and now he wasn’t anymore and he also said he didn’t get over past things

[boggboss]

U got sweat up in his words thinking he was going to change your world and now its fallen apart I di think u need to get therapy tho as u have been caught up on this for months now if u are this insecure u shouldn't be dating

[Lyhra4]

Insecurity about what? Sorry I didn’t get it? Because he lied to me?

[Lyhra4]

And I’m not involved this for months this guy just insisted on meeting me and he immediately started to want to rush things

[boggboss]

That a guy ubwas dating for so little time has had u thinking about this for so long when he stated he dont think your goals in life match is crazy

[Lyhra4]

Yeah but in the very beginning everything was fine and he loved me after a week of meeting each other and wanted to live together… now he’s not sure… I stopped paying him thibgs and I think that was the main reason of the breakup……

[boggboss]

He didn't love you he said sweet things and u thought he would stay with u forever and now u are not capable of moving on and are obsessed with him

[boggboss]

U keep jumping from differnt reasons why he moved on and can't accept that your goals in life didn't match before u said it was your looks and now u say its because of money the reason is irrelevant u need to just move on

[Lyhra4]

I know and I will I just would like to stop blaming myself that’s all :(

[boggboss]

So stop blaming yourself and move on again I think u need therapy as the way your obsessing over this guy is crazy u keep looking for some way to paint him and the shittiest guy ever when he simply said sweet things at most is a lier and then didn't want to be with u

[Lyhra4]

Thank you so much honestly

[In_Trance]

Revenge is small dick energy. Move on with your life