How To Get Over Him And Except It?

[Anonymous]

I hope everyone is doing well, I’m not. Currently crying while I’m writing this. It’s been a day now and he ghosted me. It literally hurts my heart because I see his snap score go up and I’m still on delivered. His excuse was, "I been busy” then how the hell you have time to snap others back, but me? Something’s up because he started not texting me back anymore, usually we do everyday. Ghosting started happening when we had sex the other night after. I’m so stupid and thinking to myself what did I do wrong? I want to go back to the streets again, fuck it at least when I was around no one has ever made me cry like this before.

[RespectfulGuy]

You're crying? In Pain? Medically speaking, pain is good. It shows that you're still alive and not a walking dead. Bare minimum, pain shows that your senses are still intact and not like zombies, who don't feel anything anymore.

No, you don't accept anything bad. You move on. You get wiser. You learn to manage relationship better.

Like those who contracted Covid-19 and recovered, they're immune and no longer need vaccination.

So accept the inevitable. He's Player-69. And it hurts to be played. Like Covid-19, there is no known treatment. But pain is good. It shows that you'll soon recover.

Know that worldwide, many girls also suffered from Player-69. Many even attempted suicide and some died. Many didn't feel the pain and are dead emotionally. They're walking, but they never smile again. Like undead, they are seen and assumed alive. But they're actually dead inside.

Hence I'm happy for you. You're crying. And you're in pain. Now you know Player-69. The pain will eventually be gone and you be healed. But you'll receive a scar on your heart as a token of courage. It'll forever protect you from Player-69.

For now, go out and do some exercise like jogging or swimming. Then pick up a physical skill by reading or joining a class. And yes, visit your friends. Friends that live outside the screens. And trust me, have a cup of tea or coffee with someone in a bistro helps heal your heart.

Finally, don't let me stop you from crying. Cry when you need to. It's a great way to heal and the path to wisdom. Yes, pain is good. Keep being alive and stay courageous. There are billions of girls who are less fortunate, who no more cry nor in pain.

Well wishes.

[Asker]

I be lying if I told you I read this all and understood haha.

[RespectfulGuy]

It's not meant to be understood.
I just hope you smile and move on with life, positively 😁

[Asker]

That was weird, but thanks I appreciate it haha

[summiter]

I think he was using you. Especially if he ghosted you right after sex. How long have you been going out with him? Was the sex bad that night or did something go wrong?

[Asker]

He did tell me, I’ll text you when I get home safe, which he did. We been active since December. No clue.

[summiter]

Try one more text and see what he says or if he even replies. If not dump him and move on

[Asker]

Yeah I will on messages, but he did post on his story and still on delivered wtf 💀 I don’t think anything went wrong it was just to vibe. He usually takes me back to his place and grab food. But, it was later everything was closed so we just did it in the car. I don't know

[catiecatie]

I get it. I was in your exact boat last year early January. He told me he needed time, 3 weeks later he found another girl in another state. Made me feel like shit. But time heals trust me. Cry and let it all out no one will judge. Go out have fun with friends. Find a cool hobby. Do stuff that takes your mind off of him. I’m not going to lie but it took me 6 months before I started moving on from my guy. I do know now that he is on girlfriend number three and he has two baby mommas in two different states. I’m glad I dodged a bullet. But hey I know exactly how it feels. Things will get better. Look at me. I’m crushing hard on this new guy and my male friend who is around my crushes age told me that he is definitely give me mixed signals. He goes it’s a 50-50 you have nothing to lose. I will ask this guy out but I do have to wait a bit though. Girl let yourself heal. Many people heal differently and it might be a couple months like me, but I’m back out there and I’ve never been happier. If this guy does come back and you are still interested in him then you can question things a bit. I’d say that’s a red flag and it’s good that he did it now, but it sucks. Things will get better trust me!

[Asker]

Ugh it gives me the icks that other woman could be apart of this. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

I really wish there was some magic formula to solve this or something encouraging I could say, but sadly this is just how life is. We don't have enough quality men left, it's mostly gays, simps and fuckboys. Choose your poison, it ain't getting better.

[Asker]

I thought he was different. Was a church and family man. Treated me well not like other guys so I’m confused.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I also thought my guy was different. A doctor and also big on family. He did the same to me after 4 months, just puff! There are really no rules or signs, guys specifically don't care about being assholes when they "have to" for some personal gain, they are much better actors then women because it's easy to act when no remorse or feelings. The only thing you can trust is time. I'd say if a guy is still around after like a year, you could start considering a possibility that he might like you!

[Asker]

Thank you

[nastyb]

he's a sexual predator. Its shocking that such sexually predatorial behavior can't be classified as rape.

[Asker]

As rape? How 😂 I let him tho.

[nastyb]

@Asker

the psychological after effects are exactly like a rape victim's.

And trust me, if rape were legal, he definitely will rape

[Asker]

Damn scary

[nastyb]

something similar happened to me. i was so shaken after that. i feel like you really can't tell if someone is good or bad upon first impressions anymore. the most dangerous people are the ones with the best disguises.

[Vikkrram]

I think ma'am he just wanted sex and when he got that he just ghosted you

[Asker]

I agree, but we had sex and been on dates multiple times. Guess he had enough lmao

[Vikkrram]

Ma'am haarsh reality People do get bored 😔

[Asker]

I know where he fucking lives. How dare he

[Vikkrram]

You don't want to meet that person again. Ma'am time would heal all this for you.
Take care of yourself

[Asker]

No fair, I met his parents too tho. I’m going to tell them. Did that not mean anything or what?

[Ben487]

what does 'go back to the streets again' mean?

[Ben487]

also nobody wants to text someone every day that is exhausting. If you wanna make plans to do something make plans but there is no need to hear from someone every single freakin day. Holy shit would that get annoying.

[Asker]

Oh really, how about your partner? You need to keep tabs on each other obviously.

[mommymommymommy]

FUCK SNAP

[Asker]

Hehe lowkey I got his number tho too as well

[mommymommymommy]

BYE!

[Asker]

WHYYY

[mommymommymommy]

why not