Do I miss my ex or simply not feeling alone?

[Anonymous]

I am 1 year + post break up and starting to feel a bit lonely recently. The novelty of living on my own definitly wore off. Togheter with it I started to think more often of my ex and what she is doing etc. I wish I could talk with her. Am I really missing her or is that just because I feel lonely currently?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, I totally get where you're coming from. Living alone can get real lonely sometimes, and it's natural to think back to when you had someone there. A few things to think about:

- What exactly do you miss about your ex? Little things she used to do? Sex? Laughing together? Important to separate the person from just missing companionship.

- Is this the first time you've felt a bit down since the breakup? Sometimes old feelings can bubble up when we're feeling low in general.

- Try distracting yourself to test if it's situational or you genuinely want her back. Go out with friends, pick up a hobby - see if the thoughts fade.

- Consider reaching out just to talk, but beware getting sucked back into old patterns if you're not really over it.

If you fondly miss little things about HER specifically when you feel better, maybe there's unfinished business. But if it's more just not wanting to be lonely, I'd focus on filling your time with people who lift you up. There's other fish, man! You'll get through this and come out the other side better. Chin up, dude!

[Anonymous]

You do miss her, but you need to start focusing on other women, doing so will take your mind off of your ex.

[Asker]

Well I tried going on dates but I just dont have real interest in getting to know new women somehow.

[Opinion Owner]

Then stop looking for the time being and focus on other things in life.

[BigDog1989]

Not feeling alone