The man I love is getting married today? I don't know how to cope with this situation?

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I have loved this man for 7 years now. He cheated on me, i broke up and left him but couldn't get over him either. Today he is getting married to someone else. I don't know how to cope with this situation. I feel pain.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

yeah you will likely always feel a little pain your heart, but it'll be less and less.

but this happened 7 years ago? or something? i think it's time to maybe get some professional help since you are not moving on as you should.

did you find out about this on social media? if so i'd suggest blocking him or unfollowing or not looking at his pages anymore. you're only causing yourself more pain, knowing this information.

when i was really young it took me like 3 years to get over a guy. never thought i would. he's obviously married now and has a kid. but you know what, he got married 2 times before this recent marriage. he was always so unstable... i don't feel anything for him anymore. and i have my own partner and my own life now. so it does get better, just remember that.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

I have had this experience before, but if I had known back then what I know, it would be just a matter of time until they too, ended up divorced. And he got married again, and divorced again. Lived with one for 11 years. Lived with a much younger one for about10 years (?) until she died.
I heard back about 7-8 years ago he had cancer of the prostate, but I don't know how true it is 🤷🏼‍♀️.

He was staying in his best friends motorhome until his friends came to live there and they were bugging him all the time, so he took the keys to his friends car and took off. That was years ago and we never heard from him again.

So, it might hurt real bad right now, you just wait and see what happens down the road ☮️

JacobJordan · Accepted Answer

You don't cope with it like it or not you have to feel it. All of it. And it sucks once you fully embrace all the feelings including the ones you are burying then you can move on. Have a seat somewhere private and slow your breathing reflect on everything and feel it all. Cry if you need to. Sob if you need to. Get rid of all of that emotion and then sleep. In the morning you get up look in the mirror and tell yourself "this is a new day and I am going to move on with my life" then pick a goal to accomplish for that day and when you complete it make another one. Repeat as needed until either a you feel content or b you find a special someone

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Well, that sucks for you. I am sorry to hear about it. Move on and start dating other guys. At first you will fail a lot but over time you will get over it... and then you will start meeting better people... but you will carry the bagged for the rest of your life... but trust me once you meet the right one, that shit will stop, and you will be blessed.

Because if you had not had this experience with this asshole, you never would of found the right one... you would been stuck with a cheater.

RavVid · Answer

I imagine you have a sense of loss but really your loss dates back to when he cheated on you. I think some self reflection is in order and might help you over this.

Maybe this guy was out of your league. Men tend to date down while women try to date up. Dating up has the downside your partner has better options available.

Maybe this guy was always going to cheat because he had low moral standards. So if an opportunity arose he was always going to take it

Maybe this isn't the case in your case but think about. Don't be in love with the impossible.

Craig73 · Answer

Everyone has "the one" or the one "who got away". That's just a fact of life. In the years that follow, you inevitably think about them from time to time. But you have to guard against putting them in an idyllic light. Nobody is the same person they were saying...5 years ago. And when decades pass, even moreso. You aren't living the day in, day out times with them, and only remember them at their best often times, which isn't exactly accurate. I suppose that's why the old sayings exist like: it's better to have loved and lost... those kinds of things. Just because you have special feelings for someone, that doesn't make it a perfect match by default. Sometimes it's nobody's fault, you are just in different places, or have different expectations for the direction things go. Sometimes people even confuse love with infatuation... which is basically the first 6 months of every relationship. Real love starts when one upsmanship ends... it doesn't matter who has the upper hand

molonski2 · Answer

I'm sorry for your pain , but if it didn't work then it wouldn't work now , you split for a reason , you never got over it , but you didn't act on it either. To cope? Well you just need to focus on yourself , get yourself to your very best , move on with life , you don't have to forget him , but you just need to focus on what you can control.

Wishing you well , take care.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

I think starting by not checking up on what he's doing.. It's best that you retreat from knowing anything about him for a long time.. I think it's seeing that the man who broke your heart and moving on with another woman is really what is getting to you..

abraraneez · Answer

Being cheated on is probably one of the worst feelings one can experience in their lives. Cheaters can never be marriage material. He will most likely cheat on his new wife and get into a nasty divorce. Trying finding peace by acknowledging that you've dodged a bullet

RHK36 · Answer

Hit the gym and move on like an adult. Stop watching someone live their lives, so you can live yours. Caring about him and thinking about him getting married is desperate af. You're better than that, move forward and live your best life already.

Staximus · Answer

If the guy really loved you, he would have never cheated on you. It's time to move on with your life and get over him. If you married him, he would cheat on you again. Is that how you want to be treated?

Al_Musafir · Answer

I don't see a genuine reason why one should care for a cheater and whatever he does for the rest of his life.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

If he cheated then you shouldn't want him. Why waste your time missing an asshole when you could be with a better guy?

Nikki1989 · Answer

No man is worth that much pain. Just move on from this.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Just get out of their honestly, you don't need to stay caught up with their lives, it will only make you feel worse

Forceinhand · Answer

Well that's just altogether a toxic situation. Time is the only remedy. You shouldn't feel so strongly over someone who cheated; less so obviously for someone about to get married.

exitseven · Answer

Think of it this way. He is now someone else's problem.

Anonymous · Answer

Not like you have a choice. I’m sure he isn’t as concerned as you are.

QuietRunner · Answer

You'll have to move on by finding another man, getting into your work, or something else. You choose to leave him for a good reason, now it time to live with the decision We all have to

bowenw · Answer

He may still be a cheater and you probably don't want to be married to someone like that.

AmeerX · Answer

It's sad but get over this guy. You are just upset for no reason

Anonymous · Answer

He’ll probably cheat on her too. The pain you feel might be the dread you have for her and what she’ll be going through shortly.

Jupiter1 · Answer

Is he marrying the woman he was with when he cheated on you?

CubaPirate · Answer

Girl up and move on he's not even worthy of you. You must know that you deserve better

FunkyMonkee · Answer

But, you wanted to get it on with me?

gorydetails · Answer

He'll cheat on his wife, don't worry.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Find someone else to make memories with.

HouseMoat · Answer

You really do love pain don't you

Emanon25 · Answer

Ik it’s kinda hard but try your best.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Find another man, how hard is it?

shortster · Answer

The best thing to do is find someone better.

FenixG45 · Answer

Stop pining, and go out and find someone new!

YAsQuen · Answer

well i mean u ARE 27...

Joker_ · Answer

cope

Anonymous · Answer

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