Relationship with Married Man?

[Anonymous]

One month ago i met someone online and he quickly got in relationship with me after one month when i asked him to meet my family he told me he is married i felt betrayed but he said this marriage is just for the name sake he is separation he couldn't tell me because he was scared to loose me.. I forgave him and accepted him now i have started to feel he is taking me for granted i feel he is using me for emotional support and physical need

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, that's a really tough situation. On one hand, you like this guy and want to trust him, but him being married is super sketchy. A few thoughts:

- If his marriage is just for show, why hasn't he gotten divorced yet? Seems fishy.

- You deserve to be someone's #1, not their side piece. He's probably not giving you his full commitment as long as he's still technically married.

- Actions speak louder than words. He should be making big moves to prove he's serious about you, like filing for divorce, not just saying the marriage means nothing.

- You could totally be getting played for emotional/physical support like you said. Once the thrill is gone he'll ditch you.

I know you like him, but you gotta love yourself more. This situation will probably only end up hurting you. You deserve someone who's 100% available and can give you their all. Tell him you can't keep seeing him until the divorce is final. If he doesn't make it happen, time to move on sis! You got this!

[Anonymous]

That’s hard to say. Part of me says leave. But there are a lot of people who are separated from their wife or husband but stay together for financial reasons, especially on the men’s side because it would cost him in child support, alimony, etc. Like the day goes, “it’s cheaper to keep her.” Maybe she uses him for health insurance for her, for the kids, maybe he’s using them for a tax break. There’s a lot of possibilities. But honestly if this is going to go further something needs to happen. Meaning a divorce if he is truly separated. Because you won’t be able to get married, which could be an issue w health I surrender, dental, maybe having a baby together. Your child is going to need those benefits. Where’s he living? There’s a lot of things that need to be figured out. Is he older than you?

[Asker]

He is 6 years older than me we don't want baby together he wants to marry me and enjoy life together but deep down i know divorce won't happen because of financial reason while in separation he doesn't have to spend much on her because her needs are basic only food n shelter but after divorce he will have to give her half of his salary as alimony according to our country law plus there is expenditure of 2 daughters... In this relationship the one who is not getting anything is ME for my future there is no security his job is also stressful so i am kind of a stress relief object for him i don't think he loves me he loves what i do for him how much time i give him at night

[Opinion Owner]

Of course he wants to marry you lol he’s telling you that so you won’t leave. Don’t be naive. A man is most likely not going to say that after a month. He’s having his cake and eating it too as they say. In the end yes you’ll end up losing. What about life insurance? If he does you’re not going to get it. If I was you I’d move on. What’s the point of marriage I’d you don’t intend to have children? I think he’s using you. I would be too if I was getting some young pussy on the side. I’d tell you everything you’d want to hear to keep you from leaving knowing that I’m married. That it’s her. I’ve tried. She’s always arguing w me, making things harder for me, o feel used. She doesn’t appreciate me the way you do. You make me feel like a new man. I feel like I can do anything w you by my side. Etc, etc.

[Joker_]

don't do it buddy

[Asker]

I feel used 😪 i don't know why i have sympathy on him i am not getting anything in this relationship he is using me for his loneliness