What was the reason you divorced your spouse?

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Or if you never married, why would you divorce?

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

I married once and never divorced. But I'll go ahead and say cheating... financial, sexual, and all the different kinds of cheating.

Sometimes people need to get put in their place, but it becomes toxic when one party is putting the other in their place all the time for shit they didn't even do. This would be another big ass reason people probably end up saying they've had enough. Like, everybody has boundaries.

The biggest problem I see in society though... people step into marriage to divorce eventually all to begin with. Like, they planned on doing it right from the start. Financial gain is what I see most of the time. So the advice I'd give any man... don't make yourself a target for gold diggers. Don't show off anything you have. For reals, if she asks how much money you have... tell her you're broke and in debt. I guess that advice could go for females too actually. "Love" shouldn't be based on that shit... the fact that it so often is, is just sick. I'd also suggest actually getting to know each other for a few years at least first. Rushing into such an arrangement has motives behind it... that's not going to be healthy down the road.

Why did I finally marry... she's still in the military. We lived together for years. I hate the idea of marriage, but they would send her overseas or some shit and I just don't think LDR's are healthy at all. So we kind of got pushed into it just to be together at all. Married now for like almost 2 decades. But I still believe the entire idea and institution of marriage is simply bullshit... at least in this day and age.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

I married late, still going good. Never divorced. but had my share of being dunce and painful relationship. I learned a lot about myself and people in general.

Others' I've seen... just wanted different things, stress and lack of compromise, unwilling to change... e. g. incompatible. We're all incompatible... but you have to make a choice to communicate, adjust and work effectively together while keeping the stress at the right level and maintain connection. Ignoring problems is a cause, avoiding is a cause.

Cheating is a cause of some, but the root of cheating I suspect is something else... details I don't know.

AviatorTom · Answer

After 20 years, we agreed to amicably divorce. After our kids were grown, there wasn't that much in common for us, since we got married primarily in the first place to raise a family. FYI... we're still on good terms, years after the divorce.

RealMarek · Answer

I was always told marriage was difficult and you had to “stay in the game.” However, I never learned the difference between abuse and merely difficult behavior. Long story short, I endured her borderline personality disorder and abusive behavior for years until we had a child. When I saw that the child quickly learned I was not a person to be respected, I knew I had to divorce. No amount of counseling helped. As soon as I moved out the child started to respect me and behave better. My mental and physical health improved too even though the divorce cost me greatly as the courts tend to favor women.

Anonymous · Answer

I am married and don't plan on getting divorced, but a guess would be pornography or sex addiction would cause some people to not be satisfied with a single partner and grow unhappy and then leave to hoe around again.

Reason for divorce always boils down to someone feels their needs aren't being met by their partner. I don't think divorce should be an option for people unless there is fault, ie infidelity, abuse, etc. It would make people be a little more selective on who they married.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I don't believe in divorce, she was the one to file for a divorce and i have accepted cause she left no room for keeping the marriage...

The reasons that she have mentioned are: physical abuse, mental abuse, doesn't love me anymore and that the whole marriage thing with me was a fault 😏

The final decision: she lost everything, so go figure it out...

NathanDavis · Answer

I could come up with many reasons why I could divorce... but they're all quite obviously bad stuff, lol cheating is one, though

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I've never been married but, the reason I left her was because I discovered I could no longer trust her and because I found out she was cheating on me!!

Anonymous · Answer

divorce is not an option for me. my parents divorced and it devastated me, even still to this day. i will NOT follow those footsteps. it would have to be something extremely bad for me to consider it.

coolbreeze · Answer

I think the main reason people divorce is over money and infidelity issues.

katiesmuff · Answer

Cheating, cruel treatment to me or kids, drug use, lazy and not keep a job would pretty much be the reasons I would bail.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

One became egocentric over time. The other had severe mental issues. Interestingly: since I abstain from marriage... I never had a divorce again :)

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I never married because bad luck at meeting the right woman.

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

Haven't divorced. If it ever were to happen, it would be infidelity.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I never got divorced. Were still married after 30 years

Tina19 · Answer

Never been married but if i ever do my reason for divorce would be cheating and if he is abusive

Anonymous · Answer

considering the VAST majority of divorces are caused/initiated by women. your question is best directed at them. Most men dont want divorce, its forced on us.

Likes2drive · Answer

She was cheating on me constantly so there was no way of saving that marriage and kept spending money we didn’t have

Jennz6 · Answer

If I got married I probably wouldn’t get divorced, unless he didn’t want me anymore.

Akam93 · Answer

If I could I would divorce my husband now for never helping do anything. He does very little.

clampfan101 · Answer

I imagine it would be due to a lack of trust.

shortster · Answer

My religion only allows for divorce in the cases of infidelity or abuse.

Trav9310 · Answer

Marriage it's a fucking curse don't ever bother you will regret it for the rest of your life  It's expensive and a waste of money

BLP11520 · Answer

This is a can of worms, people can only handle so much.

Anonymous · Answer

There is no reason a good wife should leave her husband

Anonymous · Answer

As a man, divorce is the reason I will never get married.

DJB72 · Answer

Infidelity. Not happened yet.

Kinkyhubby · Answer

1st wife cheated while away in the military

Ironic_Method · Answer

She was schizophrenic and tried to kill me.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Infidelity. Grew apart.

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

Girlfriend - she ghosted me

dudeinohio · Answer

She traded me in for someone younger.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Abuse/insanity/drugs/infidelity The last three.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Oh shit.. here comes the female projection.

HouseMoat · Answer

Irreconcilable differences

Simslover92 · Answer

Infidelity

Anonymous · Answer

Only one reason. She doesn't love me.

elizamichale1 · Answer

I would never do tht

Anonymous · Answer

Unhappy

eagle1951 · Answer

she cheaped.

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