Should I just dump a girl or threaten to dump her, if she acts like I am going to cheat on her?

[Anonymous]

I'm a shy guy. When I date, I would think the girl knows that. But too often girlfriends I have had are constantly worried that other women are flirting with me.

Ok so they lack confidence. What do I do? Just dump them? Do I threaten to dump them if they don't cease to be like that?

[Aditiiii]

I don't know maybe they lack confidence or are so in love that are afraid to lose you.

Try comforting them and making them feel more secure.. you can also try cutting off or speaking up to people who flirt with you while you are committed to someone. Maybe this will make your relationships last longer

[Asker]

I used to try to comfort them but it's pointless. There is no comforting. It's all on them.

Nobody flirts with me. There is nothing to curve away.

It's like as soon as I start dating a girl suddenly out of nowhere I become this player guy with girls all over me. It makes no sense. There's no girls. Nobody is flirting with me. I'm not doing anything I'm not flirting I literally can't flirt. I have extremely bad social anxiety and the girls I date know this!

It's like they want me to be that guy more than I actually am or something.

[Mr_twoface]

No, find the ones who do not lack confidence! As for the rest, openly speak to them and tell them how you feel. Tell them you want a relationship with someone who trusts you no matter what and find a common ground to work on it. If they still continue, well then you know what your next move is.

[Asker]

Thank you for ohrasing it like that I'll definitely use that because that is exactly what I want. Thanks.

[Mr_twoface]

Thanks for the MHO and hope things works out for you! You can always return for follow-up help/advice.

[strateguy632]

yes threaten warn "if you don't trust me then dump me' ultimatum. later say "but you trusted me".