If you were interested in a conversation with your ex how would you go about it?

[Anonymous]

If say you wanted to have a conversation with an old flame but it didn’t really end on the best terms. Just curious about what they think and how they feel about you in general. I have noticed that they have been keeping tabs on me online as I knew he used a fake page to follow me. I have never tried contacting an ex before, though I heard sometimes it happens over time. How would you contact them if you’re not sure how? Any advice?

[SallyTho87]

I would not contact them.
That part of my life is over, and the time they had with me has diminished, it does not exist anymore. Especially if it ended on bad terms, it doesn't matter the reason. I do not see the purpose in reaching out to an ex, when there is a reason you two are ex's, and a reason things did not work out between you two.

The months or years spent together, you could have discussed what you want to discuss now. Time moves forward, no sense to dig up the past, dig up all that hurt emotion, confusion, etc. just to ask a question or contact the ex. Not worth my time.

[TommyMountainFigure]

^^^^ The voice of reason

[WhitneySnow]

They’re defo still into you if they’re going to all that trouble. I guess just reach out to them and ask them how they feel. Just curious, how do you know it’s them?

[Asker]

Oh yeah that’s a good question. I have doubted it at first and I thought it was someone else I knew from before. The first hint was that he sent me an anonymous message on ask fm claiming that the pictures I drew depicted HIM AND ME. He was asking why I allegedly did that? Though I can argue I didn’t. They just looked like him a little.

Also, I could see some of the content he followed was very specific and so it could not have been anyone else. He has never tried to contact me from a real account though so either he still thinks I don't know his identity or doesn’t care

[WhitneySnow]

Yeah it’s defo him. Just reach out to him. Let him you know he’s been following you and ask him why. That should open the door to an honest convo.

[Asker]

By messaging the fake account? If I message him on his real account he will deny it knowing him overall.

[WhitneySnow]

Message the fake account and see what happens

[TommyMountainFigure]

The best advice I could give you regarding an ex (when it finished on bad terms) is to stay well clear!

[Bricealan]

If I wanted to talk to my prior wife/prior girlfriend, I would just call them or text them.

[sawno]

We agreed that if I want to contact her its by email and if she wants to contact me she messages me on steam (or email but I am less likely to see that). So thats how i'd go about it. We aren't on talking terms though so i'd only contact her if there was something special to say.

[bobalife]

Guys be using the holidays, my birthdays, replying to my stories, or the baesic playin it safe line “how you been?” Line to try to get responses when it’s over lol. Maybe you can do the same?

[Princesspd]

I usually text him to see how is everything going. If he gets the hint, he would initiate a meet up for coffee or lunch. Then we have sex.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

I tried that once, now we're back together again. 😭😂

[Iron_Man]

Just say, how have you been start off the conversation?

[Maomaomaomao]

I wouldn't. It would be pointless. If it's over, it's over.

[Jefftheduck]

Don’t

[SallyTho87]

100% agree

[Anonymous]

Maybe try to be friends.