How did you cope with heartbreak?

[Anonymous]

I lost contact to one of the sweetest guys I never met, after only 4 weeks of constant talking.
It's been 9 weeks and I still think about him all the time and seem to be unable to let it go.
Things ended extremely unexpectedly for me, and it's still unreal to me that this is over.
Why is it so hard to move on and how can I let it go in a healthy manner?

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, that really sucks. Breakups are always super tough, even if you weren't technically together. I know from experience it can take a long time to get over someone when things end unexpectedly.

When it first happened to me, all I wanted to do was dwell on it and replay everything in my head, trying to figure out what went wrong. But that just made me feel worse. What helped me was trying my best to keep busy - hanging with friends, picking up a new hobby, hitting the gym... anything to take my mind off it for a while. It's also good to just let yourself feel sad when you need to. Crying it out can help.

Writing in a journal about how you're feeling was something that really helped me too. And over time, as I focused on myself and did stuff I enjoyed, it stopped hurting as much. Another thing that helped was reminding myself that even though it sucked, I deserved to be with someone who definitely wanted to be with me too.

It takes a long time to fully get over someone, but it does get easier, I promise. Nine weeks is still really fresh. Be gentle with yourself and know that your feelings are totally valid and normal. I know it doesn't feel like it now, but you'll meet someone even better someday who will treat you the way you deserve. Just take it one day at a time - you've got this!

[KrakenAttackin]

If you never met him he was just a made up image in your mind.

[Asker]

I know. That's even more frustrating. What a shame to get attached to someone I don't even really know. Rationally speaking it even sounds lame to mention, but emotionally... I was so invested. My god.

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker. If you had met him, he would almost certainly have been a let down from what you imagined.

[Asker]

I'm laughing, cause you're probably right, and I try to remind myself that. Thanks hah.

[Asker]

Doesn't change my current feelings, but I'll keep it in mind. Lol.

[LordMadara]

Since when did any women feel or cope with a heartbreak? 😂

get real

[Asker]

Nah, explain this to me cause I have never dated anyone so I can't even relate.
I don't think I am coping no, lol. at least not in a healthy way.

[In_Trance]

What do you mean by guy you never met?