Today is the first time i feel so alone, at my age of 32, I'm still single, unmarried, no child, no partner to love and loved me back. I pay my own bills, my family bills, giving my parents monthly allowance, but I'm still alone. The man that I loved, already left me recently, without any efforts to make things right again. So hopeless at this point of life. I wanted a guy who can love me for who I am and care about me when I'm sad, it's hard to find the right one. I wonder if I could find love again.
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Thank you everyone for being a good listener and amazing motivator in my daily life. I couldn't keep going strong without each of you. Your words and those genuine responses, have become my backbone to get myself back on the right track of life. Love you all!
You will find a love greater than any love you have ever known just be patient.. until love comes to you in another human form love yourself the way you wish someone else would..
Know finding lasting love is like picking apples sometimes the guy looks great on the outside but rotten on the inside or doesn't look bad on the outside but amazing on the inside.. sometimes our apple that we choose, choses it doesn't want us.. let it go thankfully because that gives the man room that wants to be there can... I dont understand all the ways love works but I do know achieving what you want to achieve now before you have a man helped me.. I wanted a particular job and house.. so I got the job.. was getting rid of debt to get a house and he came into my life.. instead of feeling your missing something think of everything you can do without a man. What im suggesting is flipping the script thinking the best about where your at being more positive on your outlook about stuff.. so example instead of thinking im missing out.. why can't anyone love me? Whats wrong with me? Think this instead.. I dont know where my hubby is but I know he's out there... searching for me as I am him... its hard to meet people right now with covid in person but you can still download dating apps and get to know different men on a mental level and thats great cause you want to know someone inside abd out before you come physically active.. lay all the foundation before you have sex or send nudes.. also your just a little older than me I have friends your age abd older who are single.. im sure you also have friends who have been married abd devorsed like I do be thankful your not in their spot.. I never thought id find a man suited to me but I did.. finding a man with values can be hard in a world that promotes 3 somes and open relationships so I knew I was looking for a needle in a haystack.. I was prepared to live alone then be with the wrong guy stuck in a relationship where I felt single or just unhappy... so download id recommend okcupid.. think about your goals.. ask guys what their goals are see if they match up with yours if they dont just say I dont think this will work and move on.. ask them what their dream woman is like see if it sounds like you.. best advice I have for you is focus on your dreams ones you can achieve without a man.. I know you want a man but that will come love yourself in the meantime and dont compromise on another man that wants you thats not your type be upfront and honest.. you want a life long partner not someone that has you on an yo yo with several other ladies.. so if you focus on your dreams/goals then you can be happy when you get close to achieving them and happiness draws others in.. iys tough to navigate this world but you can do it on your own with your families help until you find the partner thats perfectly suited for you!
Dont let anyone make you feel like your less than because your single your not! I hate the saying you complete me because we are all complete on our own.. just the right partner will add to your life not take away. Also get a dog and when your wanting a man to hold you close take your dog for a walk.. dont just sit and dewell on things you can't change.. work on what you can change... best of luck to you! Hope this helps!
The only thing I can say is don’t a hobby that helps you release that built up anger or stress. Mine is working out but you should find one that works for you. Whenever you feel like things get hard or emotions get overwhelming, you can turn to that hobby.
The other thing (which sounds cliche) is to surround yourself with people who love you as much as you can. I know it’s difficult sometimes as people are busy and have their own priorities but spending time with loved ones whenever possible will help fill in that emptiness sometimes.
Make an effort to hang out or meet with new people. It’ll help you remember just how diverse the world is and how life is full of possibilities.
Finally, have faith. Take each day one step at a time. There’s no manual on how to fix a heartbreak or how long it should take. Everybody’s different. Accept how you feel and try to love yourself every day. If you feel giving up, love yourself enough to keep going. And if you feel like you don’t want to do something for example (like call in sick for work), then don’t do it. Love yourself enough to say no. Take care of yourself.
Time heals everything and life is full of ups and downs. Accept that this is a down and when the timing is right, things will start getting good all over again. xo.
Every day you scream into a pillow, punch a boxing bag, lift weights, do something that gets the anger out. Do this for an hour in the morning but then after that get on with your day and life.
Spend time on a purpose and passion in life... that is usually when you will find someone great.
Also go no contact. Every day you go no contact you get closer to healing.
With a break up you lose a big part of your life, because with a relationship a big part of your day revolves around your partner so when you lose your partner they leave that part empty and that leaves you part empty cuz your mind was occupied with them. Now your mission is to slowly fill that void day by day, as you initially allow yourself to grieve for some days, but the quicker you'll be able to fill this void the quicker you'll move on. Best way to fill the void in my opinion is to pick up a new habit, like start joining a daily yoga class for example, do something new that rejuvenates you, maybe even go as far as start practicing martial arts like BJJ, when you bounce from a break up and do something great for yourself it becomes like your life is just beginning and you get excited every day.. Once you find back your confidence and feel ready to put yourself out there again for a better relationship, you start meeting new people and at this point you would have moved on completely maybe even before that. Things will be great again, believe that.
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I actually practising Yoga and BJJ for almost a year now.. yeah both activity are great for distractions, but now, most fitness centre are closed due to pandemic, and when I'm stuck at home, i keep thinking about him, and why we didn't work well. Thank you for taking the time to read my story, i really appreciate it a lot.
Wow that's awesome! Well these centers should be opening soon tho, right? I mean a lot of countries are allowing gyms to open again, so I suppose that's right around the corner, you could start physical therapy too if you have any minor injuries that you have been neglecting.. Also what about dieting what's your current diet? It's my pleasure ❤️
They may be opened by end of June, but unlikely to be open anytime soon. For my diet, now i try to skip my dinner and replace it with fruits or more water intake. No appetite to eat as well hahaha
Well I'd recommend going sugar free and gluten free either that or fasting maybe a couple of days a week, or both if you wanna challenge yourself, first couple of days will be difficult but then your energy would be superb. You'd be feeling much better..
Nothing in comparison to your but it's been over 6 months since my ex left me from a 3 year relationship and it still feels like yesterday. It's tough and I think about her all the time, but other than not being independent as of yet, I can't see that I did anything wrong. I put in tons of effort. It sucks because you thought when you were with them "This is the person for me. I'll be happy living my life with them." And then they up and leave just like that. It does hurt, but know you're not alone. I'm taking it one day at a time. The more I think about it, the more I think "Great. Saved me the trouble. If you're gonna leave me at my low, you don't deserve me at my best."
I will say this though. Just because you get into a relationship, doesn't mean you can take it easy. You need to put in constant effort and not be lazy. Spice up the bedroom. Work on your appearance and workout. Always be open minded to fun experiences. Do yourseld up when you go on dates.
A lot of women AND men have the misconception that when they find a partner, they shouldn't have to put in effort and their logic is "I want someone to love me for me." Well that just isn't realistic. Humans aren't dogs and our love is not unconditional in that sense. It's always based on reciprocation.
I know from experience that love can heal and love can destroy. I also know that you can come across thousands of people in this world and you will think nothing of it. The reality is that eventually you will come across that one person and they will mean the world to you. I honestly don't recommend just sitting back and waiting. If you want to find someone, get out there and just talk to people. Make new friends, try new things. Go to events or take part in hobbies with other people. You will find someone. The best relationships start as friendships. Don't lose hope. Put yourself out there and meet people.
It just takes time to adjust. I've been through all kinds of breakups and lived to laugh about it. 😅 The good news is that there's so many people, when you're ready you will love again. Just be calm, you're grieving the loss and your system needs time.
When it comes to life I always say you should never give up, you should never give in & most of all you should keep moving forward no matter what. As for relationships from time to time things do happen & where one door closes another door can open if you allow it. On the other hand it’s not game over, it’s game on & like in the game of hockey just remember to keep your stick on the ice & you’ll be fine.
There is 1 thing in this world that is more powerful than love, that we were all given this gift,, it's called choice , no matter what we do what we think what we say how we feel it's our choice. Is your heart break because of somebody that broke your heart are you is your heartbreak because none of the above have you felt I've been a part of before send me personal message so I can understand more I can't tell what you want to hear but I can tell you how I would go about it
You have to remember something we are all given a gift that gift is choice no matter what we go through in life it's our choice on how long it lasts it's our choice on how deep we want to feel it it's our choice if we want to accept it or not it's our choice when we feel pain it's our choice when we want to stop feeling the pain I found the best way to get and to make that choice is you have to accept whatever the problem might be you have to just accept it once you accept it you have to acknowledge it but you knowledge that you have to do something about it that's another Choice every step is a choice we choose who we want to be by the things we say and do it's your choice to stay right in the situation right in the same feeling that you're in right now or make that choice not to be you're the only one that can do it
I feel ya too... I'm actually 32. Divorced. Single for almost 2 years. No kids. Help family. I'm coming to the terms that I might just be without a partner and kids. Which is fine for me. If I want kids I might get a donor and/or adopt. If I happen to date again. Great. Will I find love as strongly as I want again. I dont know. Love movies and love stories help to fill that lonely void. It gets better. Focus on you being happy and you'll be fine. But if your in cali and want a fren hit me up
Craving for love from others never pays off. Love yourself for who you are, never expect others to do that. Since our first breath to the last one we are always alone, others come and go depending if they need us. Egoism is the drive of humanity, not love or hatred.
In the end it just takes time. You can try a rebound relationship but do not expect it to work out. A rebound relationship is to help you forget and feel better. After about 6 months the rebound relationship might go south. Then give yourself another 6 months before you start dating again
@Asker Sorry to hear about your situation, but I agree with @deeks1121. It'll take some time, but it's best to keep moving. Avoid all contact, including looking at their pics on online media if you can as that will only cause you to remember past emotions.
by being sad for quite a bit. heartbreak sucks and it's ok to be sad as fuck for a few weeks. i try to move on by basically trying to journal all the things that i learned and that i can carry on forewards to improve my future self.
It may be hard to believe, but you will find love again sooner or later, trust me. Your situation is hard but it's not the end of the world. You just gotta keep looking & trying. Good luck!
Ohh sorry for you. But I am in a similar Situation. My big Problem is I have a really small dick (almost 3 inches)... very hard to find a woman for long relationship and to found a family...😔🤷
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I tried drugs and shit, never worked.
But let me tell you this life will make you realize how this pain is just a sting that really didn't affect you.
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At least you had a guy. I am 31 never had a girlfriend, have never been kissed.
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