How do I cope with a horrible heartbreak?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of three years broke up with me yesterday because he thinks I’m cheating. (I’m not, just because I blocked a guy on instagram doesn’t mean I did it because I was texting him). He treated me horribly said awful things, he body shamed me, called me a whore, talked about taking “revenge” on my family. He has always been very verbally abusive but I can no longer put up with it. We have broken up a million times & gotten back together. This time I want to go through with it because I deserve better.

However, my heart is shattered. I feel empty, everything reminds me of him. How can I go on? I don’t want to text him no matter how tempted I am. If one day he comes back I want to have the strength to not go back. I just want my life back I want to be happy again without him.

[MedAsianGirl]

I’d block him on all platforms if I were you, so I wouldn’t change my mind again and return to such an abusive relationship. Being in an abusive relationship is dangerous and unhealthy, and I’m glad you’ve determined to end such a relationship with him.


Call the authorities if he’s threatening. Abusive people like him use such method to try winning back their desired stuff, and when they actually make it, they probably still haven’t learned their lessons and would be abusive again. Leaving him completely helps him to calm down and reevaluate his behaviors and also helps you stay away from additional harms.


It’s upset to end a relationship that you’ve worked hard for for 3 years. But it’s also really nice that you’ve realized that he’s not the right one for you before it’s too late. As someone else has said, be productive and try to use this time to heal and work on yourself. There are better people that you could meet and you’ll forget about him as time passes.

[Asker]

Thank you so much I will!

[bzcxx]

To be honest, I’m in the same situation as you. My girlfriend broke up with me last year. She accused me of cheating on her (which I didn’t).
I haven’t even able to get over her because I didn’t get the closure I needed as well as the chance to explain things to her. She simply blocked me and that ended years of love and affection for one another.
I’m so sorry I have no idea how to help you with this one. I’m in the same boat as you and I haven’t been able to pick myself up till now.
I just hope you’re okay. If no one told you today - you’re so loved and you’ll be okay. A heart that’s broke is a heart that’s been loved.

[ThebestIndian]

Just find someone who can smoothen you and just don't forget what he did to you

Get yourself hobbies that you always liked
Immerse yourself into some work
Watch movies, web series

Try productive

I have been there. I can understand. Don't worry. It is gonna pass.

Take Care

[JPresidente]

Start working out and go to the gym. You'll see things there that will change your mind and help you move on.