How to stop thinking of marriage?

[Charmingflower]

I am 31 years old doctor.. i was with my ex for 7 years then he left me hurt me and cheated on me.. now i feel really sad depressed.. all of my friends get married.. and no one is with me

What should i do with my life

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang girl, sorry to hear about all that mess with your ex. That really sucks he did you like that after being together so long, I can't believe some guys. 7 years is a long time too, I can understand why you'd be feeling down about it. Breakups are tough, especially when they cheat on you, it really plays with your head and makes it hard to trust people again. But don't worry, you're definitely not alone in feeling sad and depressed about it - that's a normal part of the process.

It's good that you've got your friends there to support you though, even if it is hard seeing them all get married while you're single now. But like I said, 31 is still super young - you've got your whole life ahead of you! Don't feel like you need to rush into anything new right away. Take some time to focus on yourself and do stuff that makes you happy. Your career as a doctor is awesome, so throw yourself into your work for now if that helps take your mind off things. Maybe pick up a new hobby in your free time, or start going to the gym - working out can really boost your mood. Traveling somewhere new could also help give you a change of scenery and cheer you up.

And who knows, once you're feeling better you might end up meeting a nice guy when you least expect it. But for now, don't stress so much about relationships - just do your thing and enjoy being single for a bit. Hang in there, it'll get easier with time. And your real friends will stick by you no matter what, so don't feel alone. Keep your head up - better days are coming, I'm sure of it!

[mobiusforniner]

You don’t lose hope. If he's unable to see your value, then he doesn’t deserve you. Focus on yourself, develop, improve and move forward. Clinging to a past won’t fix the future. And worrying about the future won’t resolve the past.

All you can really do is enjoy what is now. That is why it’s called the “present”

[Unit1]

That's kind of a good problem to have if you think about it on a certain perspective. You have the freedom to choose what to do with your life.

Although without love it can get lonely and feeling left behind everybody else. That's part of life experience.

In my opinion if you are sad and depressed, it's most likely due to you not being able to do what you really want to do over extended periods of time. The question is - what is it?

[molonski2]

Just keep being a doctor , focus on your role , you will be fine you are still very young , dont put limits on yourself , they'd be very fortunate guy who has you.

[leahzrc]

Damn guys really give up everything just to cheat

[ManInChains]

So do women

[leahzrc]

So that makes it okay? pls I'm sick of this site

[ManInChains]

Never said it was ok

[leahzrc]

I'm sick of you I'm sick of all of you

[ManInChains]

No one is making you continue using this app/website except yourself. I can do the same and leave anytime I choose and never come back if I wanted.

[leahzrc]

idgaf but I know I never want to meet you in person

[mobiusforniner]

@leahzrc that’s because this website is largely comprised of angry incels who think women are out to get them. Then they simultaneously complain of sadness and loneliness, like somehow their inability to find a mate is always someone else’s problem

[ManInChains]

No, the problem is people on this site ASSUME men are incels because they have criticisms of women and ASSUME they all want a woman regardless of what he may say. Why do this as if you’re somehow some righteous white knight fighting off men who are sick and tired of women? @mobiusforminer

[ManInChains]

I don’t understand how a man who has criticisms of women and clearly say they don’t want to find a woman is somehow still called an incel as if people don’t know what the definition of an incel is they use it as another word for misogynist.

[mobiusforniner]

@ManInChains because it’s putting blame on someone else instead of taking personal accountability to better one self

[mobiusforniner]

@ManInChains you call me a white knight. Nah, I just don’t blame people - women or otherwise - for my problems.

[ManInChains]

As if women take accountability for anything 🤣 accountability must just be something men have to have and not women. @mobiusforniner

[mobiusforniner]

@ManInChains you cannot control other people. Learn to let that go. You can only control yourself. Remember that.

[ManInChains]

“Nah, I just don’t blame people - women or otherwise - for my problems.”

Yet you still have problems and are unable to deal with them without dealing with it directly and if you refuse to deal with it directly just because the problem has to do with a woman you’ll always have problems. @mobiusforniner

[ManInChains]

I know that I can not control other people that I can only control myself that is why I refrain from meeting women and having meaningful relationships with them. Somehow I’m still an incel? 🤣 please

[mobiusforniner]

@ManInChains huh? Of course I have problems. I learn to control my own actions and respond to problems. I don’t react.

[ManInChains]

So you solve your problems by not doing anything about said problems? What kind of woman is going to accept that? 🤣 @mobiusforniner

[mobiusforniner]

@ManInChains I don’t think you get it.

[ManInChains]

I’m starting to believe I’m not supposed to

[Anonymous]

U are a doctor. U are the catch