How can I stop thinking about marriage in my 30 years old?

[Anonymous]

I am 30 years old i just finish my studies.. i am a doctor.. i dont find my partner yet.. but society still remind me that i should get married.. so i am getting worry

[Anonymous]

What society says doesn’t matter. You don’t need to worry about what other people think. If you want to get married you have a lifetime to do so. There’s no age limit on finding love or getting married. However, if you want kids (using your own eggs) with a partner then you need to start seriously looking for that person right now. Fertility decline dramatically after 35 and there’s no knowing how long it would take you to find your life partner. Even if you would find him today trying for kids would be a few years in the future (and you likely won’t find jim tomorrow… and you might find someone and spend a year or two with him only to break up and be back at square one) because you would need to get to know each other well, establish a stable relationship, decide you want to be with each other AND coparent with each other forever, move in together and get engaged and married if you want to get married. You’ll be approaching or already be at 35 when the time to start trying for kids happen. If you want more than 1 child you’d be trying for the second (or third or whatever) after 35. Even though for most women it’s still perfectly possible to have kids after the age of 35 fertility declines sharply by each year after that and age baded fertility issues can arise. You or your future partner might also have other fertility issues already that you’re not even aware of. If having your own genetic kids is important to you I’d freeze your eggs if I was you. It’s expensive but cheaper abroad, and being a doctor I think you should be able to make it work financially. They reccomend your freeze them before your mid 30s, the earlier the better. Some doctors say you should freeze them no later than 33 to have the best chance of them surviving thaw and be of good quality enough to give the best possibility of them resulting in at least one child. There are never any guarantees they will though, no matter your age.

[OfMiceandMen]

You're worrying for nothing. Considering you just finished your studies and were likely focused on school rather than finding a partner, I am sure one will come along.

Provided, you stay put in one place so you can get know guys in your area. If you are still travelling around to different areas/hospitals etc., then it may make things a little more difficult.

[Guy13]

professional groups, research groups, and conference within your field. Believe it or not, meetup has groups like this of "professional" etc. try it meetup. com

[Static_In_The_Attic]

If you want to stop thinking about MARRIAGE think about DIVORCE instead.

[TheFlak38]

You're a high quality post-wall slut who will never be happy with whatever man she can find. It's over for you. It doesn't mean that you can't find a man. It means that you will never be happy with your millions of options.

[slatyb]

Society? Forget that and do what you want. Do you want a partner?

[FeminineHSP]

Childfree is best way to live. But if you decide to have kids, make sure to sacrifice your time greatly.

[FeminineHSP]

As for your question, yes we doctors lead study oriented lives, that we don't have time for relationships and it ends at this. But I believe that there is not much difference between being alone and being married, if you can be the source of your own happiness and peace.

[Anonymous]

Who could have seen that coming?