Should I tell my crush I like him even though I don't want to go out with him, so as to not look rude distant and aloof while trying to heal?

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As much as I'm pretty sure he doesn't like me back, I still worry about offending him if I seem like I'm trying to avoid talking to him or spending time with him without explanation. As much as I've tried to create a close friendship with him, we're still on an acquaintance basis, whereby he only talks to me if we cross paths.

osmanthus · Accepted Answer

Nothing wrong with staying friends. You're not ready.

Why make the guy stick around for your ass just because you told him you like him.

Seems maybe a tad selfish, doesn't it?

Whatever you want to think about it, you can tell him you like him but you won't be dating him because you're healing or whatever you want to call it.

katiesmuff · Accepted Answer

If he doesn't like you in the first place and that would mean have no interest in dating you why worry about saying anything to him. You make it sound like he if fine just the way things are already.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

No... don't do that. You'll destroy his ego.

When you tell a member of the opposite sex that you like them, that's an open invitation that you'd like to go out with them.

You don't have to avoid him. Just keep things on friendly terms.

SotiCoto · Accepted Answer

Why would you? He doesn't need to know and, under the circumstances, he is probably better off not knowing.

RetroReviews · Answer

If you don't want to go out with him I don't think it's a good idea, you could get him excited only to disappoint him and maybe cause him to doubt himself affecting his confidence

DishLady · Answer

If you can’t resist telling him then go ahead, but what he does with the info once he knows is not predictable.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

That doesn’t make sense you like him but don’t wanna go out with him what’s the point on telling him then?

warsevf · Answer

Well he is your crush, tell him how you feel and tell him you are not ready... make sure to SPELL that out though, for better or worse, so you won't have regrets later

Akam93 · Answer

Sounds stupid if you like him but don't want to date him. Like confusing as fuck. This is why men don't date woman anymore just fuck them.

Booklover_90 · Answer

If you don’t want to date him, what’s the point of telling him you like him? That’s counterintuitive.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

You have a crush on him, but don't want to go out with him, but want to tell him you have a crush on him... good grief. Leave this poor guy alone.

elaphe · Answer

I had a similar experience when I was in college. A girl I liked told me she had a crush on me, followed by telling me that she had a boyfriend. What was the point of telling me?

DextroShade · Answer

If you play these stupid games he will likely just move on.

NathanDavis · Answer

sounds like a mess waiting to happen...

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I'd say go for it why not. Better to know for sure then never have known in my opinion

Kinkyhubby · Answer

Why, keep it to yourself. If you wanted to go out with him, then I would have said yes tell him.

Angie03 · Answer

Sure before someone else beats you to it shoot you’re shot.

strateguy632 · Answer

no because it will just cause stress

shortster · Answer

Why don't you want to date him?

Anonymous · Answer

U don’t wanna go out?

Loner111 · Answer

Tell him how u feel

Should I tell my crush I like him even though I don't want to go out with him, so as to not look rude distant and aloof while trying to heal?

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