My "dad" just left us...

[Jay_So_Lovely]

So I come home from school today and I go to hang my coat up and I notice that all of my fathers jackets were gone. And I soon found out later that everything he owned was also gone and he left his key on the table...So my father left me and my mother with no money and a lot of bills...I mean I didn't really like him when he was here but now that I know he's really gone I'm kinda having mixed emotions...This has just been a really hard time for me period and then he goes and does something like this. Now we can't afford to stay in our home and we have to move out in 2 weeks and we don't have anywhere to go. He knows this but doesn't care. So my question is how do you let go of anger and hurt...Because I don't want to be bitter over this I just wanna let this go...

[Triathlete]

This is a crucial moment in your life that may very well govern how you look at men, and in life in general.

It's obvious that you want to to the right thing and not become bitter and angry. It's normal to feel these emotions, but its extremely important that you don't generalize, and take all of this personal. You did nothing wrong, this was his choice, and no one elses.

It does appear to be a selfish act, but you have to grow and become stronger, and know that his decisions do not govern yours.

Your mother is going to need your support now more than ever,...even if that support is emotional. No matter how bad it gets and how hopeless it may seem. You have to be the rock. You will get through this, as everyday will get better. Time heals all..

This event can give you the opportunity to become either an expectional human being or a broken down wreck, lost in drugs, self destruction etc... It's all your choice.

I know. Because this happened to me. Best of luck to you. There is light at the end.

[slipslender]

Good answer.

[jimmy217]

iv never been put in that kind of situation...i don't think its possible to not be hurt..but letting it go and moving forward would be good for you. So all I have to say is I'm sorry this happened to you and you don't need a guy like that in your life. I don't know what kind of father could just leave...you may love him but your better off without him

[vishna]

Since your older this might make straightening out things a bit easier. Just know that it wasn't your fault and that walking out is wrong and a cowards way out. Look on the bright side and try to get back on the tracks without the dead beat father you had.

And make sure to make sure your mom is okay too.

[Pully]

Child support will get him straight up the ass hopefully.

[Jay_So_Lovely]

lol yea...hopefully

[arashmenalagha]

This is one of the most important days in your life! maybe your dad was pushed to his limit, and every story has two sides.

If you don't really like him what reason if there for him to stay? What he did was wrong if you're under 18.

But you need to stay strong, you will get through this if you focus.

[THAT-1-guy]

Go to church or go to a boxing ring or go to the great outdoors